My long distance boyfriend [26M] masturbated to porn when visiting me [24F] after telling me that we are having too much sex.
My long distance boyfriend (26M) was visiting me (24F) for about a week in my apartment. I have been seeing him for about 6 months but only 3 months officially. During that time we were having sex every day. I have a higher libido than him and never say no to sex or any sexual activity, and he knows this. I would have sex multiple times a day if he was up for it, but I respect that his libido may be lower than mine. He had expressed during this visit that our sex felt like a “routine” to him because we were doing it every day. I tried to understand where he was coming from even though I felt slightly hurt by the words he chose. I understand that some people aren’t up for sex all the time and that is fine. He said it is tiring and hard to have to “perform” and “hold back” during sex.
The problem that I’ve been struggling with is that I found out he masturbated to porn in my shower during that visit. After telling me that this sex we were having was too much. I had a feeling he did and asked him and he admitted to it. I watch porn myself and I don’t necessarily mind that he watches it, even though I am a bit uncomfortable with the fact that he watches it every day. He also seems to love liking photos of instagram models which makes me feel self conscious, but I digress, not salty at all about that…
It really hurt my feelings that he was in my apartment, with me right there in the other room, and still decided to watch porn in my shower without telling me or including me. I also know he watches cam girls a lot but don’t think he interacts with them. I understand that a lot of people masturbate because they want a quick dopamine release and want to disconnect and have a moment alone or whatever, but I felt disrespected by this because he was coming to visit me in my home. Then with all the sex stuff on top of it, it all makes me really confused. I don’t understand what made him absolutely need to watch porn with me right there and why he didn’t just approach me for sex or even to help him out real quick. I am really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but my feelings are hurt. A lot of my friends who are women said this was really weird behavior, but I am interested in getting a guy’s perspective as well. Why do you think he needed to watch porn then? Or why he is so closed off to sex all the time but jerks off every single day? I’m not sure if there’s something wrong with me or something he’s missing sexually, but I’ve made it extremely clear that I am open to anything in the bedroom and I do believe he is attracted to me. I would also be surprised if he had a porn addiction because it really doesn’t seem like that.
Anyways thank you for reading this :)
TDLR; boyfriend came to visit me in my apartment, told me sex every day feels like a routine, then masturbated in my shower to porn.