I moved schools earlier this year because my mum made the decision, even though I repeatedly told her I hated the school and didn’t want to go at all and I’d rather drop out of a levels that go.
Since being here, it’s been really intense (7:30–6 Mon–Fri + Saturday school). I feel constantly drained, and I haven’t made any friends after 15 weeks despite trying. The school is extremely racist I’ve had the n word shouted at me and im the only POC .I often feel left out, and the environment hasn’t been supportive academically either—I have gaps in content and haven’t had much help catching up.
I’ve also always struggled with the Saturday school structure—it’s something I’ve consistently found exhausting and hard to manage, and even though she knows this, she doesn’t listen or show empathy.
My mum is a narcissist and tends to dismiss how I feel or tell me to “change my mindset” or just “pray” instead of listening. ( recently she’s developed this mindset of being positive all the time so even when I express any sadness WHICH IS NORMAL she will dismiss it and get irritated if I’m not positive as life is good😕) Even when I’ve called her crying, she hasn’t really shown empathy.
I want to move schools for my final year to a boarding school in London with a less intense structure (8:30–4:30), more diversity, and a better academic fit. I’m even willing to help pay part of the fees. I’ve already been in contact with the school—they may have space, and the next step is an interview, but a parent needs to be involved.
My grades have been affected by the stress and gaps in teaching, but I’m trying to improve. I also suspect I may have ADHD, but my mum has refused to let me get assessed, which makes things harder.
Has anyone dealt with a narcissistic parent in a situation like this? How did you convince them to let you move schools?