MIL and my parents
EDIT for clarity: My parents are unwilling to evict her. She had an opportunity to move into temporary housing and they let her stay because they didn't want to see her end up homeless. I can advise them all I want but it doesn't mean they will listen to me.
I think I have posted a bit about this before, but here goes...
My MIL moved across the country to live near my husband and I after we had our child. Before she came, my husband and I told her multiple times that she could not live with us indefinitely. We were very clear about it, but she kept acting like eventually we would give in. She did end up staying with us for a few months but she had arranged a place to rent and moved in there as planned.
After about a year she spent all of her money and lost her place to live. My mom stepped in trying to help her find housing because she didn’t want to see her end up homeless. Somehow that turned into my mother-in-law moving into my parents’ house “temporarily.” I advised them not to let her move in and that she would never leave.
Now she has completely overstayed her welcome and the situation is getting ugly. I can feel the strain it’s putting on my parents, and my own relationship with my parents, and I’m angry that they’re now dealing with this.
I hate feeling like the bad guy for wanting basic boundaries respected and I hate that my parents got dragged into this.
I don’t even know what the right thing to do is anymore. I feel like I need to stick to my boundaries, but I also feel my parents getting resentful that they are the ones who took her in. My relationship with her feels like it's past the point of repair, and I just can't imagine her living with us at this point.