I'm 14. My 16yo brother is aggressive, addicted to his phone, and has no sleep schedule. My grandma hasn't slept in 2 days. Family wants religious help first. I need advice
I'm 14F. My brother is 16M. We've lived together for 4 years and even shared a room, so I know him better than anyone.
Things have gotten really bad the last few months and I don't know what to do.
Sleep
His sleep is completely flipped. He sleeps all day and stays up all night on his phone. He watches videos and plays games until 6am.
Because of him, no one can sleep.
My grandma is elderly. Without him she sleeps 7pm-9am. With him she goes to bed at 1am and wakes up at 4-5am. This has been 2 days now. She's exhausted and crying because she can't sleep.Phone and aggression
He is addicted to his phone. It's the only thing he cares about.
When we try to take it away or limit his time, he has violent episodes. He screams, throws things, hits walls and doors, and threatens us.
Sometimes I'm genuinely scared to be home at night.What my family wants to do
My mom is desperate. Our family decided that first we want to try religious help with a religious leader.
I respect that and I want to try everything. But I'm also terrified that it won't be enough and he needs medical help too.
I love my brother. I remember who he used to be.
But I feel so guilty because part of me thinks we should see a doctor or psychiatrist. It feels like I'm betraying him.
I just want my grandma to sleep. I want us all to feel safe at home again.
Has anyone been through something like this? Should we try religious help first or push for medical help right away?
Please tell me I'm not a terrible sister for thinking about a doctor. I just need someone to tell me I'm not alone.
\_Thank you for reading.\_
And to be honest, I'm so tired of all this..