u/Disastrous-Joke-2548

was bsf with pwBPD for a very long time. as you guys know, these people are professional button pushers and are relentless until you react. a few nights ago i did react and i blew up on them. i’m not proud of how i acted, i definitely called names and overall lost my temper for a good few hours. i think i was just releasing over a years worth of fear and anger towards them. anyways, i dropped by their house after (this is very normal bc we were attached at the hip) so we could talk. she instead called the police on me. nothing came of it because i wasn’t threatening her nor was i doing anything weird.. i just went home after.

i got a message that she will be filing a restraining order against me even though i blocked this person and completely cut contact after that night bc i was scared of what she would do now that ive stood up for myself. it’s literally like reactive abuse. they push until you pop and then use it in their favor.

is this even warranted? is this possible? i’ve never harassed her. it was an angry one time fight and now she’s threatening to ruin my life starting with the restraining order. i’m exhausted and i want to be left alone. does anybody have any thoughts because im spiraling. she’s relentless

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u/Disastrous-Joke-2548 — 21 days ago

I was recently very close/best friends with a girl who has severe BPD. i encouraged her to get on medication and seek support via therapy after a long steak of threatened restraining orders and i was pretty much the last man standing. this past weekend i introduced her to my ex, i was excited to to reconnect with this ex and clear the air and my best friend was there to support me. instead, my best friend texted me at 2am that night saying she fell in love and she’s going to go for my ex. my response (i am not perfect so leave me alone) was initially sarcastic, then i set boundaries, then i lost it all together. she just taunted me, ignored me, and told me i was horrible because she was in love and she could care less about our friendship and was moving forward with the love of her life (she met my ex 5 days ago). she told me she’s going to ruin my life and im worried she’s going to spiral out of control and contact people in my life or even my job. i have her blocked on everything but i don’t trust her. what do i do here? do i just ignore her?

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u/Disastrous-Joke-2548 — 22 days ago