I cried after our first prenup conversation for the wrong reason
My fiancé (34M) and I (31F) are eloping in California this fall we wanted to keep everything simple so I never imagined one of the biggest parts of preparing for marriage would end up being a prenup.
When he first brought it up I didn't react well I thought it meant he was planning for the marriage to fail and I took it way more personally than I should have. Once we started the process everything changed so instead of just talking about assets so we ended up having conversations we'd somehow never had before we talked about our careers, what we'd do if one of us wanted to stay home with future kids and what we wanted our life to look like 10 or 20 years from now.
By the time we were ready to meet with lawyers most of the difficult conversations were already behind us so the prenup itself almost felt like the easy part because we'd already taken the time to understand each other.
Looking back I don't think the prenup made our relationship stronger on its own it was everything the process encouraged us to talk about that did.
Did anyone else come away from the prenup process feeling closer to their partner than before?