r/Eloping

Me and my fiancée have been together for 6 years and engaged for 3. We have a beautiful daughter together, but one thing we haven’t done yet is actually get married.
Originally, we wanted to get married before our daughter was born, but we couldn’t agree on what kind of wedding we wanted. Then our daughter came, priorities shifted, and financially we weren’t really in a position to pay for a wedding.
Over the years, we’ve gone back and forth between wanting a traditional wedding, doing something small, or just eloping.
Now we’re at the point where we’re seriously considering just going to the courthouse and getting married. But a part of me still wants that experience of having a wedding with our family and friends there to celebrate with us.
At the same time, I don’t want us to keep putting off getting married just because we can’t afford the wedding we originally imagined. I love this woman, we’ve built a family together, and I honestly don’t want another year to go by without us being married.
So I’m curious, has anyone else been in a similar situation? Did you decide to go to the courthouse or wait until you could afford the wedding you wanted? And looking back, do you regret your decision or are you happy with how things turned out?

Hey everyone!

We’re planning a micro wedding in Sequoia National Park and I’m looking for photographer recommendations! 🌲🤍

So far, I’ve only come across a couple of photographers who seem to have extensive experience shooting in the park. Ideally, we’d love someone who knows Sequoia well, including the best photo locations and hidden gems!
If you have any recommendations or personal experiences, I’d love to hear them! 🥰

We are eloping in May and have only told close friends & family. Im looking for ideas how to send an elopement announcement after we have eloped and once we’ve gotten some photos back.

Some ideas I have are

- a post card in the mail with some photos on it. Surprise! We eloped.
- a post card also including a QR code to a website with our video and photos?
- a Facebook post and or text we can send out with link to our website.

Looking for website ideas too! Any suggestions are appreciated. We aren’t having a post elopement celebration so it will not be an invite. We will only be doing dinner a few months afterwards with 10 people and sharing our elopement video then with them.

Hi, we have been together for several years and finally want to make it legal and official. Due to us living overseas and not in our home country, we are thinking of just eloping and eventually having a celebration with our family later on. We are not members of a church currently, but I grew up with a Christian background and the more I think about us getting married, I wish for a spiritual blessing over our marriage next to the legal part. So, I’m wondering did anyone here get married by a priest where it was just the two of you (and the required witnesses by law)? Is it weird to get married in a large church and then it’s just the couple?

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My parents were not going to be invited to our elopement, because it’s an intimate gathering and my relationship with them is complicated. I accidentally spilled the beans and they FREAKED OUT and were really upset about the potential of missing it. They really were so desperate to be able to attend, and laid it on pretty thick.

And so now I’m spiraling ;/. Any advice, commiserating, welcome! It’s tough because I’m now wondering “would it really be that bad to have them there” etc.

For the record we’re having another big wedding later on. We are inviting my partners parents to this elopement (I guess technically micro wedding, 8 guests total).

TIA

My fiance and I are eloping next May (2027) in Isle of Skye. We have most of our vendors booked, however, I am having trouble finding a makeup artist. Does anyone have recommendations?

Hey all!

Me and my fiance are very set on eloping with just the two of us and having a celebration with close friends and family after the fact. The celebration will be about 100 people due to the nature of our large families.

I want to give people plenty of notice as we want them to come celebrate but don’t want to give two far of a notice because I read it’s kind of tacky to invite people to an elopement party way in advance so I need your opinion on this timeline —-

Ideally, we want to have an elopement party in the spring so April- ish. Backing into that, we are thinking of eloping sometime in December. And then in January send out “we eloped!!” notices that are coupled with an invitation to the celebration in April.

How does this sound?

Thanks in advance for everyone’s thoughts!!

Got engaged last week, and we have a trip to Vietnam in 5 weeks. I would love to use it as an opportunity to elope. The marriage would be done legally in our home country, it would essentially just be a day dressed up, doing vows, taking photos.

Where should I start? Bonus points if anyone has personally eloped in Asia I am struggling to find much online!