Treated myself to deep dish pizza and a cider.
Last week my 2 friends got in an argument in our 5 person groupchat. It started with one saying she really wanted to visit Hawaii. My other friend, who is native, was against this and suggested that friend 1 try and visit somewhere else. This escalated into a full blown argument with paragraph texts, name calling and a debate about ethics of tourism vs land back.
The whole time it happened I was at work, and only came in at the end. Since I was supposed to host the 5 of us that evening I was uncomfortable and asked that they talk out their frustrations prior to/ instead of coming over. I felt like the rest of us couldn't be mediators, and I've been told before it's not my job to out myself in the middle of their conflict. Well it backfires. Friend 1 lit into me for not "defending her", Friend 2 hadn't spoken to me in a week, even as I've reached out to check that they're okay. I've hurled twice from how anxious I am.
This entire situation sucks, and i don't want to lose my community over this. But I don't know if there's even anything I can do to fix it. I just want to go back to how things were, with my friends feeling heard and supported.