u/Disastrous-Wave4948

After my previous Disneyland trip and how awful the overall lightning lane experience was....

Is there a Lightning Lane type pass that is basically free-use all day, even to take a ride multiple times?

I started seriously considering saving paychecks and doing a VIP tour to just skip the lines...but ideally, I know there are plenty of rides I'd prefer to hit 2x or 3x and other rides I'd prefer to skip.

Does anyone know of an option that basically works like a free-use Lightning Lane pass?

If you can't remember the last time you took your wife on a proper date and you don't have a date planned in the very near future; take a few minutes to plan one out right now.
Tonight. (Or tomorrow.)
Change other plans.
Move things around.
Make a proper date with your wife a regular priority.

Just like when you were dating, just tell her what time you're picking her up, that you're going to dinner, and an activity you'll be doing (if any). If you need someone to watch the kids, take care of it. And whatever else needs to be taken care of. You figure out all the logistics and details.
Again-just like when you were dating: your goal is that the only thing she needs to worry about is what she's wearing tonight.

So all your wife will know is that you called\texted her, and told her to be ready to go to dinner tonight at 6:00. If you have young\high maintenance kids...tell her you're taking the kids at 5pm so she has an hour to get ready for your date. When she raises any other typical barrier to going out...have that taken care of.

If you have those young\high maintenance kids...giving her that hour is essential. She'll use the time to get ready for your date...but she'll also be wondering the whole time what's gotten into her husband, what the special occasion is, etc. Getting her thinking about you and not worrying about her job, the kids, the house, etc, is exactly the frame of mind you want her in on your date.

Lastly: Don't expect sex and don't push for it. (If you're the high-libido-in-the-relationship kind of guy that is always pushing your wife for sex...few things will get you even more into her brain and drive her crazy like her husband who constantly pushes for sex taking her out for a great date night and then not initiating sex. Getting in her head like that is the long game you need to be playing in an eternal relationship.)

If she was worth marrying, she's worth continued effort.