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Do you guys pay attention to women's underwear?

I always try to wear pretty and sexy underwear, but my partner doesn't seem to notice. All he does is take my clothes off as quickly as possible. I think if I wore a banana leaf instead of panties, he wouldn't even notice. 🥲

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u/Electrical_Nose_7425 — 14 hours ago

My kinks are very extreme

Lately, I’ve been feeling very ashamed about my kinks, because not a lot of people share the same interests as me. I’m looking for people who may be in the same boat as me, so it’s relatable.

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u/Fun_Blacksmith_3917 — 9 hours ago

Feeling ashamed due to sexual inexperience

I grew up in the LDS community, where I was very sheltered when it came to anything sexual. I wasn’t exposed to sexual content, conversations, or really given much space to explore that part of myself. I married my husband young, and now he sometimes brings up fantasies or things he wants to try that feel completely foreign to me.

I love him and want us to have a healthy, fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel guilty or inadequate because I don’t have the same experience or comfort level. I’m realizing that being sheltered for so long shaped me more than I understood, and now I’m trying to figure out what I actually like and feel comfortable with without feeling ashamed for being inexperienced.

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u/fruitoftheloom2020 — 13 hours ago

Vita sessuale post matrimonio / figli

Per il solo 1/10 credo di reddit, per i più anziani.

Ma quando ci si sposa e si hanno dei figli o in generale comunque solo figli (ormai il matrimonio è diventato fuori moda onestamente, colpa forse anche dei costi se non lo si fa solo in comune), come gestite la vostra vita sessuale?

Avete trovato una scappatoia legale, oppure si appende il batacchio al chiodo e ci si pensa una volta che si divorzia e si ricomincia alla grande?

Onestamente c'è un nebbione in giro su sto argomenti, una follia, partono dal cambio di ritmo della coppia, finiscono con la mancata attrazione per il partner, passando per la stanchezza generale.

E poi, pensate che si "tirino indietro" più donne o più uomini?

Esperienze personali?

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u/SeparateChocolate613 — 18 hours ago

Blowjob over sex

I'm mostly tired these days after work so when hubby suggests sex I'd rather help him masturbate, give a hand job or a blow job. Once he comes, we go to sleep, any other women experiencing or feel like that as well?

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u/Sanam2456 — 1 day ago

Looking for ways just spice things up

I am a mid 40s dude. Wife is 42. She is very much a reactive desire type and I am pretty much ready to go at any time. We are both fit and take care of ourselves. We have sex 3 times a week usually.

We decided to schedule it for every other day and it actually has helped quite a bit in avoiding arguments and such as she would tend to say no more often before and we had less sex.

I am a fan of the more spontaneous stuff and the schedule doesnt really allow those situations much.

So for women who are more reactive in their desire, what has worked for the more spontaneous stuff? For the men, what has worked with your wives?

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u/korihorBJJ — 1 day ago

Did you grow up in a NCMO community? Do they still do it today?

NCMO = Non committal make outs. Basically, feel free to kiss different people without it meaning that you were now in a relationship of any sort.

I grew up in AZ but was also exposed to the NCMO club while at BYUI. And I know it was big at one point in Utah (pretty standard LDS youth activity in larger communities).

Were you doing NCMO? Is it still a thing today? Besides the YM sports leagues and tournaments we had, and the super activities and hikes back then…NCMO was about as much fun as you can imagine.

There was a time when growing up in the LDS church was absolutely a blast!

I was a wedding recently and saw 2 ladies I had kissed before. It all came flooding back.

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u/PeraltaCanyon23 — 1 day ago
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Help with Gender Dysphoria

I'm a 14 year old member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I have a lot of gender dysphoria. I was born male, but over the last year or so I've been feeling as though my gender at birth does not align with who I am or want to be.

The church has rules that state that, in short, I shouldn't go transgender. I have tried accepting that fact and praying about it but it has never helped me. I still feel deeply that my biological gender does not align with who I am.

I am not willing to leave my church over this. No matter what I choose, I know that I believe in Jesus Christ, but other than that, I'm not sure.

I have not brought this up to my parents, and I'm struggling feeling comfortable to do so. I know that my parents would be supportive of me, but I'm really shy and I can't bring myself to tell them.

I'm looking for help/advice from anyone who would like to give me some.

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u/Anonymous_14YearOld — 2 days ago

Denied sealing cancellation / unethical

My husband and I recently got married civilly because he was unable to get his sealing to his ex wife canceled in time for our wedding. He recently met with his stake president, who apparently got a letter from the first presidency denying my husband’s request for a cancellation on grounds that he and I had sinned too recently for the cancellation to be approved. He was told (2 days ago by his stake president) in a letter from the first presidency that the soonest he could reapply for a cancellation would be March 2027 (in 7 months). For reference, we had sex one time in October 2025.

Let it be known that he and I both have temple recommends back, and the sex was a one-time thing. It feels like he is just being punished for a sin that happened one time, and almost an entire year ago. It feels like a huge abuse of power to me (and him), since getting his sealing to his ex wife canceled should have NOTHING to do with a one-time sin involving me and him. Curious to any feedback here/ to make this make sense.

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u/swigfan95 — 2 days ago

One of my friends just told me he snuck into a church building and masturbated in the Chapel. What could happen here?

Home boy straight up sneaks into a church building and gets off on the sacrament table. He's worried now that the chapel has cameras/a security feature. Does anybody know if that's a thing?

If he got caught, what's the worst that would happen to him? And if he "confessed" to his Bishop, what details should he include/how would they likely take it?

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u/Apart-Substance-6848 — 2 days ago

Bedroom photography

As an amateur at best photographer…I have an actual camera not just the phone. I’ve recently fantasized about a photo session with the partner and have gotten her initial approval. While this is great I’m not sure what next step is… how to initiate and plan the shoot. Looking for advice and input from couples who’ve tried. With some level of success and comfort. Thanks in advance for the feedback.

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u/Weary_Breakfast1982 — 3 days ago

Menopause Sex

Ladies, I need your advice. The wife is going through menopause, but lately has been wanting more sex, but it hurts her inside (when I penetrate) because she is sometimes dry even though I can get her going pretty well before I even go in she feels wet and ready to go. When its painful for her, I cannot perform, because I feel bad for hurting her. Anyone other women going through this? Are their lubes or anything that will help? We've tried different positions, but its all the same.

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u/randallrich0069 — 3 days ago

Wife answers the phone during sex.

So after a pretty good dry spell my(45m) wife (42f) agreed to have sex. To keep this brief, everything was going good and my wife's phone rang, it was her best friend and she let it go to voicemail, shortly after she got another call on FaceTime and because her friend had a close family member with a serious medical issue, she told me to stop so she could make sure everything was ok.

So my wife's friend saw my wife was in bed and said oh I am sorry if you already went to bed, it was just after 9pm, and we usually go to bed at 11.

So her friend was in her closet and wanted to get my wife's opinion on her outfit, and they continued with small talk. So after the initial squeeze on my arm to stop, I began to rub her without moving myself. At first I didn't notice any reaction and was about to stop and then I could feel vagina started to contract with an orgasm. My wife didn't acknowledge anything happened and I decided to just patiently wait for my turn. After like 10 agonizing minutes of small talk about her outfit. My wife finally said she needed to go and hung up.

So my wife let me finish, which didn't take long and then we didn't speak about her taking the call and no apology or maybe I should not have answered until after. So this was a few nights ago and debating if I should tell her how I feel.

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u/ImmediateMountain286 — 3 days ago

Hubby told me his fantasy

I have been married to my husband since I was 18 (both in late 20s now) but have known him since we were both in high school. He was an active member in my LDS church and ultimately ended up getting married when we both turned 18. I have only been with him. He is very active in the LDS church so I was very surprised that he confessed his fantasy about seeing me with other guys. Not sure how to feel about it. I guess my natural response is a bit of confusion mixed in with some curiosity. Wanted to chat with other LDS couples to see if this is common and if what I am feeling is normal.

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u/Curiouscue2020 — 5 days ago

Megan Moroney billboard

So this isn't meant to be specifically about Megan Moroney, but it is most present in my life... Raising Cane's has a billboard with a huge blowup of Miss Moroney. She's looking quite nice. Not being much into country music I was not aware of this human being. But I did some research and again, she's quite nice.

Last night sex with my wife and who pops into my brain but this billboard woman. It was great sex. I find myself fantasizing more and more often. I'm not totally sure how I feel about it post nut, but in the moment it's great. Do you all fantasize much about others during sex with your spouse?

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u/Connect-Bison-272 — 4 days ago

I decided to break off my engagement. I'm worried about a future spouse using sex to emotionally manipulate me.

Late 20's M here. Recently broke off my engagement with my now ex-fiancee of two years. I really thought we were gonna be married by now, but I feel like she isn't emotionally mature enough, and has shown no incentive to be an equal partner to me. She's still extremely furious and vindictive about it, which made me move to a new stake.

She initiated a few sexual things in the last few months when I was showing signs of emotional distance, like touching me through my pants and placing my hand on her chest. I know it was wrong of me to participate in that, but what really worried me was that I never really got aroused from those moments. There's too much baggage with her and I actually feel better being single now.

I'm worried that this experience will make me associate sex with emotional manipulation though. I know it was an attempt from her to try to get me to stay with her, but I now wonder how many women are gonna try to do that to me if I start dating again. I'm not the most socially aware person out there, and I don't want to associate sex with manipulative people, but I just do now.

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u/iitacoknight125 — 4 days ago