u/korihorBJJ

I am a mid 40s dude. Wife is 42. She is very much a reactive desire type and I am pretty much ready to go at any time. We are both fit and take care of ourselves. We have sex 3 times a week usually.

We decided to schedule it for every other day and it actually has helped quite a bit in avoiding arguments and such as she would tend to say no more often before and we had less sex.

I am a fan of the more spontaneous stuff and the schedule doesnt really allow those situations much.

So for women who are more reactive in their desire, what has worked for the more spontaneous stuff? For the men, what has worked with your wives?