u/Disastrous-Yard4456

My boyfriend wants me to abort our baby.

I've known my boyfriend for 20 years, since we were teenagers. I'm now 33 and he's 35. We've been dating for about 2 years now and we found out I was pregnant 5 days ago. He's spiraling. He doesn't want to be a dad, he doesn't know how. He doesn't know where we'd live or how we'd support it. He didn't have a great example of how to be a dad from his father and his family doesn't live close by to us. His mom also passed away a few years ago. I come from a huge family and they are all nearby and would help and be supportive and I just feel like even though it's not ideal, I can do it and everything will be okay. He says it's gonna ruin our lives and make us hate each other. It's very difficult because after 20 years he's one of my best friends besides being my boyfriend and I know that in his mind it's not logical to have a baby but I can't just ignore my own feelings for him. We don't live together, I still live with my parents because I've honestly never felt the need to move out but he has a roommate. We do live in an expensive city but he makes pretty decent money and I make less but honestly my parents pitch in and help me a lot. I'm only 5 weeks pregnant and the abortion time limit is 6 weeks here. I told him I didn't need him to be a dad if he doesn't want to be but he said he's not gonna pretend it's not his child for the rest of his life.

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u/Disastrous-Yard4456 — 12 days ago