I 25F recently started talking to a 28 M guy from hinge and need your advice
I’m a bit confused about his intentions.
He says stuff like I have never done casual in life nor would I do but I could sense from the way he talks that he might have been involved in casuals too (which is fine but just be honest)
We both said we’re looking for something long-term. The first day and second day were normal—just getting to know each other. On day 2, he started bringing in sexual topics, and I told him I’d prefer not to go there this early since I want something serious. He agreed at that time.
But since then, I’ve noticed a pattern. He still brings up physical closeness indirectly—like asking if we can cuddle, etc. We haven’t even met yet, but he was also talking about planning a trip together next week.
In between he sometimes says you’re mine now. And I am like, Dude? When did that happen?
Another thing is, I felt like maybe we should discuss the sexual aspects too and understand each other.
At one point he said I would finish on your face and hope that won’t be a problem. I said No, you can’t do that I would never be comfortable. To which he said and I quote “That face is mine now, I will make it mine in all ways”
Another thing that threw me off was that he kept saying things like he gets a lot of matches and girls ask him to reply, but he only wants to talk to me. It came across as a bit braggy to me.
We have not met yet. It was our plan to meet today but felt like he lied and cancelled the plan. I am abit unsure.
For context, my last “relationship” ended up being mostly physical, and I don’t want to fall into the same pattern again. At the same time, I do think physical compatibility matters in a relationship, so I’m trying to figure out what’s a healthy pace here.
I’m not attached to him yet, but I do feel slightly uncomfortable/confused about his behavior.
Am I overthinking this, or are these early signs that he’s not actually looking for something serious?
Another question, when is the right time to get physical with your partner?
I would love if you could share your experiences too.