I'm tired of living with an adult teenager.
When we agreed to be roommates, she presented herself as a completely different person, and like an idiot I fell for it because I was so excited to finally live with someone stable. 3 months later and I'm now taking antidepressants because I can't function anymore due to stress and instability.
- She initially said she loved decorating, but I'm the only one that's bought any furniture or supplies for the house, and I make way less money than her so I'm financially suffering but don't want to live in an empty box. I asked her again to help buy us a couch because she said she wanted to buy it herself so she could own it, and instead booked a $300 hair appointment. It's been almost 4 months without a couch or anything in the living room, I simply can't afford it at the moment.
- She can barely handle cleaning a litter box without having a meltdown, and one of the reasons why my friends stopped coming over is because they said the house smells like cat and they can't deal with it. Her cat also got sick and instead of taking it to the vet, she let it get so bad it spread to my cats. My boy is still sick a month later. $1500 (this was supposed to be for a down payment on a car 😃) in vet bills for me, because the infection has become chronic from stress.
- She had mentioned there was a violent ex that she didn't want to be around anymore, and didn't want him to know where we lived because he was making mildly threatening comments. She secretly got back together with him, told him I was the one who banned him from the house, which resulted in him hating me, and then I found out she was sneaking him into our home. This sent me into a panic because I thought he broke in and was going to hurt us, but I was labeled as being overreactive despite her telling me he said he might hurt her cat and made comments about strangling her.
- She said yes to fostering my coworkers cat without talking about it with me, and then immediately told our neighbors what she was doing despite the fact that they know the landlord and this could easily get us evicted. It says in our lease that fostering or adopting any animal without the landlords permission will result in a leasing violation. And of course, I'm the one taking care of the cat because she doesn't want to.
- Somehow living paycheck to paycheck despite making good money, always going on insane shopping sprees and then getting mad at me and everyone else because it's somehow our fault she's making poor financial decisions.
- Complains about everything, and I genuinely mean everything. I've never met anyone so ungrateful in my life. She mentioned before she's never had a safe place of her own, and the fact that she's only paying $500 a month to live in a gigantic house with an open kitchen, a basement that can be easily turned into another living room, an office where she could set up her crafts and computer, AND it's in a nice neighborhood is baffling to me. It doesn't matter though, she will always find the negative in everything she does. It's fucking exhausting waking up every day to hear someone talking to themselves about how much they hate everything and everyone.
Perpetual victim. Her excuse is always "my mom was mean to me, that's why I'm like this", followed by empty promises. It's making me hate her. Mostly because I grew up in a very abusive household and don't use it as an excuse to cross boundaries. I hate waking up every day and not knowing if her creep ex is going to be hiding in my basement again, or if she's going to do something else that could get us evicted. I'm just tired. I've had so many talks with her, I've contacted the landlord about a lot of it. I'm in a constant state of stress and paranoia.