u/Dismal-Log2823

When I was growing up, my parents often told me I was selfish, controlling, difficult, aggressive etc. And I could be all of those things at times, but I was also a child. Since being diagnosed 3 years ago at 19, my family are much more understanding now that there's an actual reason for my behaviour. However, I still struggle to detach my self-worth from what I was told pre-diagnosis; I still hold those very low opinions of myself. It's hard to shift from thinking of myself as a deeply flawed 'normal'/'regular' person, to accepting that I have valid reasons for making my life and other people's lives more difficult. Does it get any better? I've tried therapy numerous times, but it's never helped.