u/Dismal_Departure8171

I met my SP about two years ago. At first we had a casual relationship in which we would hook up from time to time. After a while I caught feelings. I told him I liked him and that is when things ended. After that, I discovered LOA. It took me a while, but I manifested him back, to a point in which we would text everyday en we would hang out about once/twice a week. I noticed that he caught feelings as well. Some of his friends also confirmed this (when they were drunk). We basically had a relationship without the label (I guess that is called a situationship these days). However, I noticed I would spiral when I wasn't with him. I would think that he loved his ex more than me, that he secretly hated me etc. After a while I couldn't take it anymore and I confessed my feelings (I said that I liked him). He said that he liked me too, but that he wasn't in love with me. I couldn't believe it, because I (and other people) really believed he was. In hindsight, I think I manifested the break-up. I decided to work on my self-concept. And, he came back again. We started texting more, but the relationship remained superficial. We did hook up again, but I realised that it didn't feel good, because I knew that he saw it as 'casual'. I decided to not contact him anymore. Within a week, he kept texting me, and he asked me to hang out a couple of times this weekend. I kept saying no, because I knew that he just wanted to hook up. He came over last night to pick up his sweater and he wanted to stay over, but I told him I had other plans, so he should leave. Afterwards, I texted him that I don't want him to text me again with the intention of having sex. He reacted kind of defensive, as he always does. Now my question: I still feel that he will be the father of my children. Although it might not seem like it, we can be really good together. But how do I act in the meantime? I notice that I find it really hard to keep no contact and to believe that he will suddenly change into this sensitive, committed guy. Please give me advice!!