Me semi-passing as male causing turmoil for sisters career
Possible triggers: transvestigation, transphobia
For context: I am from a very not LGBTQ+ friendly country, but live in the UK currently. My sister is a famous social media person in my country and often comes to visit me as she travels for work.
I have not been able to start HRT yet for a multitude of reasons, but I dress masculine and naturally have masculine enough features to pass as a guy already. I'm fully socially male in my life in the UK including all friends and my workplace and thankfully it has not caused any issues.
My sister is one of the most famous influencers/tv presenters from my country, to the point that whenever I hang out with her in that country - she gets stopped every 10 minutes for a photo op or a chat by a fan.
I love her very much, but her career holds on to the fact that she is well liked by people and a lot of her fans are older people/families etc. as she makes very family friendly and oriented content.
She came to visit a few weeks ago and as always posted a photo of us together captioned "sisters forever" as I am not out to her or my family, and all of the comments are transvestigating me. I see it in her comments all the time ever since I was a teenager, but now that I'm in my 20s it's been a lot worse and more aggressive.
This is causing a lot of hate to come to my sister on all her social platforms which is how she makes a living, and I feel terrible as I feel like me coming out would mean she has to distance herself from me or having to accept me which would most definitely ruin her career as about 90% of people from my country really don't like trans people.
I'm just not sure how to approach this, if I come out to her I'd just be dumping such a huge weight on her, but if I stay in the closet this still won't stop and if I do go on HRT it would just cause so many more issues.