AITAH for telling my husband I don’t want to “date” him?
So for context, I am postpartum, just started a new job, and 50 pounds heavier than my pre baby weight (meaning nothing fits).
So my husband asks me quite often if I want to go out to eat and most of the time I say no I would rather just do take out and eat at home.
Well just this past week he told me he wants us to start going out to eat and to “date” me again. Basically when we don’t have the kids. I told him I don’t really want to do that since nothing fits and I don’t like the way that I look. But also I am always so tired. I truly have no desire to go or do anything. (I also have postpartum depression and take medication for it)
Today my husband asked me what I wanted for dinner and I told him I didn’t care. He told me he wanted a burger, and I said great. Well he starts getting ready to go and I asked if we were leaving and where we were going. He said he wanted to go sit down at a local restaurant, and I said I don’t want to, I don’t want to sit down anywhere. Which in his mind I should have known that that meant we were leaving now and going out to eat. I told him that I am okay running through somewhere or doing take out but other than that I’m not interested.
He is now upset with me because he doesn’t understand why I won’t go or do anything even though I have told him many times the issues. (Stated above)
I know this is a small issue but it’s becoming much bigger, emotionally for both of us.
He says he feels like he doesn’t know me anymore.
But with PPD, my appearance, and my exhaustion, plus a 1 year old I just don’t have any desire. I don’t want to leave often but we still do and go places. It’s almost like by the end of the day my body meter is so low I nothing left to want to do anything.
I feel like I’m the AH but I am absolutely drained.