Advice: should I reach out to a friend where the relationship did not end well and we were both in the wrong?
Context:
I’ve known this girl from my town for a long time. We played sports together when we were kids and we knew each other but weren’t close. I didn’t see her again until college freshman year. We reconnected and ended up becoming best friends and she was one of the closest friends I’ve ever had. I think she had some anxiety and some insecurities when it came to our relationship but it never got in the way of anything, she was just a bit stubborn. Fast forward to junior year of college, we end up moving in together with two other girls, one of those girls being her life long best friend. They would butt heads too. She ended up getting a boyfriend junior year who was not the best guy. He was a bit toxic towards her and they were on again/off again. I didn’t like him very much, but her best friend really really didn’t like him. There were times when she would choose her bf over us and it hurt. We would argue about it all the time and it really strained our relationship. I ended up becoming really close with her best friend that I lived with while this was all happening and things were not great between us because of this. This also led to her becoming really close with some of my friends (with whom she would talk about me and the other girl with and it made me really uncomfortable and mad). I definitely did things that were not right as did she.
It’s been 2 years and I’m still really close with her best friend and she lives in another city with this bf. I have made my peace with the entire situation but I feel like I should reach out to her. I don’t really know what to say but I think I would just like to reach out and say hello after all this time. I just feel like it would be wrong to just keep having this looming over us. I’m conflicted because her ex-best friend has really drawn the line in the sand since this friend blocked her on everything. There’s so much more depth to their relationship that I probably will never understand.
Any advice would be great! ❤️