u/DixieLandDelight1959

My PSA for the day -

Guys, when making a date, you need to include a specific date, place, and time.

"Maybe we could go out some time," isn't making a date. It's you, passing the monkey of making a date, off to her. Plus, she's not going to realize you're wanting her to ask you out. She's going to simply answer your question.

And don't say, "pick a place and a time, and I'll let you know if I'm free." Her answer will likely be "nowhere," and "never," given you don't think she's worth the bother of having something in mind.

What's prompting this post? One of my neighbors is mad at me. According to him, he's asked me out for at least a year, but I've never accepted. His asking me out? "Maybe we could get a drink sometime," to which I'd reply, "okay."

I had two dates yesterday.

Bachelor 1: The first was a lunch date that went two hours with a retired 74yo electrical engineer. He was personable, with a rather laid-back personality. He struck me as being out of practice at dating. As in, he wasn't exactly exciting, or boring, just clumsy.

Bachelor 2: My second date was with a semi-retired 69yo managerial type. He was very engaging and charismatic. The date started at a swanky restaurant, and ended five hours later watching fireworks from the long pier near my house.

The Cut: I was swept off my feet by bachelor number two. That is, right up until he started in on Libtards, trannies who recruit school children for surgery against their parents wishes, Mexicans, and Blacks. (Ironically, one of his adult son's GF is an undocumented Mexican immigrant, "but that's different." 🤷)

So it's bachelor 1 getting the nod. I can deal with socially clumsy.

... And deleted my post. I honestly didn't think a 66yo woman posting a selfie would result in my inbox being flooded, or create issues for the mods, but it did.

I was going to repost without the pic, but fat-fingered that and lost it, lol. So I'll just thank all y'all that provided pertinent comments and we'll all just move on to the next post. ☺️

To my surprise I found time to think about things, both large and small, while visiting Nashville. The decision most pertinent to this forum? I ditched Mr. Trejo. I grew tired of his hesitancy and indecision.

And yes, I had a really good time in Nashville. 😊

I'm not sure what's going on with Mr. Trejo. He's texting and calling me almost daily. He says we'll get together, but he has yet to actually ask me out. (This isn't OLD. He's a friend-of-a-friend, and local.) Okay, in his defense he's only been back from St. Louis for three days, but what the hell? I don't get it. Could he really be that scared? Do I want to even date someone that scared? I just don't understand why some men are so hesitant to ask me on a date.

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In related news, Carlo and Marie are no longer engaged. Marie got drunk at her pool party, and started spouting vitriolic accusations at her fiancé. Accusations that are unfounded, rather crazy, and only exist in her mind. I made the mistake of trying to calm her. That resulted in my becoming the next victim of her abuse. So I just left. As I was leaving I could hear them fighting and thought, if I was Carlo, I'd break the engagement. Well, guess what? Apparently he packed his bags, took his ring back, and left. That night Marie lost both a fiancé and a friend.

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Now back to Mr. Trejo. Since he's a friend of Carlo and Marie I'm curious to see how, and if, this affects us. Between his hesitancy to ask me on a date, and our changing friend dynamic, I'm thinking the prognosis for Mr. Trejo and I are growing dim. That's okay. As Momma would say, "Men are like trains. If you miss one, don't fret. Another will be along soon enough."

Anybody in Nashville? I'll be there this weekend. I'm flying in this evening. Fixing things in May left me all but broke, so why not spend more? At least this money will be for something fun - country music, honky tonks, and cowboys! 😁

How do you feel about dating people with dogs?

Even though I have a little dog, dating men with dogs makes me a bit hesitant. That's because guys tend to prefer big dogs that shed a lot, and their dogs aren't always well behaved. I'm also not a fan of always having the dog in tow. I want to date the guy, not his dog.

"Dixie, this is Juice." I turned to face Marie, who was standing next to a small mountain of a man bearing a slight resemblance to Danny Trejo. He's 59, has long hair, and has a pretty good singing voice. More importantly he's kind, affable, financially stable, and has a bit of a nerdy streak.

He was a bit nervous at first, but by the end of the evening I could sense he was trying to impress me a bit by singing various songs. That's always a good sign. I did my best to be charming and interested, but I wasn't sure he liked me. At least, not until he walked me to my car. That's where he kissed me. It was a proper kiss. It was soft and gentle, with measured confidence and restraint.

A bit later he texted, inquiring if I'd be interested in going out again. I told him yes.

Time will tell if he'll follow through, or he was just being polite. If nothing else, I enjoyed a date that didn't ask if I had a friend I could bring along for a three-way, haha.

Last minute, but I have an old fashioned blind date tonight. Perhaps more accurately, I have a blind meet & greet. My friend has been working on setting me, and an "older" friend of hers, up together. She just texted he's coming to Karaoke.

As you can tell I'm rather stoked. FWIW, if this pans out, there's a pretty cool back story.

...We'll see...