‘Spinster woman of a certain age, of independent means ISO a mind at work’

Yo, Jane Austen/Hamilton mashup 👍

Divorced 10 years (marriage was over long before that). Alimony stops next month! Yay for that. I've tried everything to meet someone and am still alone. When I was newly divorced I would go out alone and do things to be around people. I went to Disney World alone once for 5 days and had a good time. I would to restaurants and have meals alone. I did volunteer work. I belong to a small church I attend regularly. But doing things alone got old after awhile. I miss being married and having someone to share life with. But I think I've been single so long now that I'm not dateable material. Both of my parents and three of my five siblings are deceased. I want to retire when I hit 65 next year and am thinking seriously about getting a little rv trailer and just traveling around the country with my dog. I just feel sad all the time being alone. I have friends and two adult kids but it's not the same. I thought I was a "good catch" for any woman. I have a good career. I was raised with morals and treat women respectfully. I provided for my family and took care of everything. I'm not a mean person. I'm not a couch potato. I honestly thought once my divorce was final friends would be setting me up with people. But that never happened. :( I know there must be thousands of single women near me who feel the same way. Why can't we connect? Sad. I'm just venting. Thanks for reading.

I am F68, divorced three years, and I recently experienced “widow’s fire” and decided I would like to have sex again before I die.
After shutting down a few sites after very few hours, I ended up on an app called Zoosk.
Paid for a month.
Added photos and some verbiage.
Check your settings and you can set age and distance.
But I never ever get young guys, and if I do I check my settings.
Zoosk sends a notification if you have had any interaction with someone they kick off. Thank you!

So far, these are all real men.
With terrible photos, bad descriptions, but some people wrote enough about themselves to spark a message from me.
Unfortunately I am in a rural area, and in Georgia temporarily, and I am not home-grown, if you get what I mean.

I have ended up talking (phone and text) with two of them.
Zoosk does a good job with the age (65 and up), but clearly doesn’t subscribe to any sort of mapping system, so they say someone is 50 miles away.

Maps says he is 3.5 hours away. 🤔

I have learned a lot. In less than a week.
Apparently they have a lot more women scammers, one guy gets notices regularly that someone he had contact with was booted off. Doesn’t surprise me I guess. I’ve only seen one. If the guys I am looking at are scammers, they are infant scammers. Just learning the trade. And way too old to start a new career.

This guy says that in several years of on/off OLD, he mostly encounters very pathetic women. Kinda like the guys on those other sites that, as soon as you logged on, wanted to video chat, and they might be 25 years old if I’m lucky.

I have honestly been flabbergasted at this turn of events.

These men are wonderful, sincere, intelligent, grandfathers. Both are unlike anyone I have talked to ever in my life.

They all want sex, to meet, etc but are mature and intelligent enuf to know that won’t happen. They also let you know their status right away. I am talking to one guy who has ED, told me upfront.

It is a strange and sometimes wonderful world out there.

This is what we all need to do. Just reach out. We can entertain each other without making an hours-long drive to an unknown location. Or other unsafe decisions.

FYI, I’d have to feel REALLY good about someone to want sex with them. They get it, and keep contacting me. All in good fun. So far, no creepers.

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63 yo, and I've never been married and its been years since a relationship. No children.

Would that be considered a red flag?

How was it left off ... no posts in 2 weeks on it. I'm still in ... even if its on another planet

Just went through all the rigamarole to create a POF account only to find they must "verify" my photo, a process requiring a camera on my computer. My computer doesn't have a camera. They could have warned me of this requirement before I began, but they didn't.

So what OLD service can I use without a computer camera? I really don't want to try each one.

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Have a male friend (mid/late 60s) who was (I think) interested in me romantically, but I’m not interested in him that way mostly due to his behavior. And despite the following sound awful-he’s a nice person and a friend.

We’ve gone out to dinner quite a few times. One thing I’ve noticed: when it comes time for dessert, he always says no immediately — even when I clearly want dessert. He pays, so maybe that’s part of it.

He can talk endlessly about himself. I once intentionally stopped contributing to the conversation just to see what would happen, and he spoke uninterrupted for about 45 minutes.

There’s also this subtle “I’m above you” energy. Comments about colleges, accomplishments, intelligence, etc. Ironically, he assumes his background is more impressive than mine when it actually isn’t. He sort of puts me down-like he has all these accomplishments but mine don’t count. I don’t even think this way.

Curious if other women over 60 have run into this type of dynamic in dating/friendships with men at this age. Is this just insecurity disguised as confidence?

At this point it seems hopeless really.

I just returned from spending two weeks in San Diego California, most of it spent exploring the coast line and the museums/botanical gardens, etc. During that time I set my dating apps to my location in the La Jolla area of San Diego where I was staying. Just for reference, the La Jolla area is also where the university of California San Diego campus is located and the excellent medical centers associated with the university.

In the two weeks I was in San Diego, I received more likes and messages than I received in the 18 months I've tried to date in the DFW area. The majority of the men had MS or PhD degrees, a few were retired, but most were still employed/working. Most were also divorced, but I did have 3 widowers reach out. I did revise my profile to state that I had three degrees, two in engineering, and I received messages from a number of engineers within a 50 mile radius of la Jolla, including a few faculty members of the University of California.

I did let all the people who reached out to me know that I was only visiting, and had not permanently moved to the la Jolla area. Only 4 of the men supported the current administration, and they reached out thinking because I was from Texas, that my politics would align with them. The rest were more in line with my social, moral, and political beliefs. Interestingly enough, 6 men were from Texas and moved to California to find a "better social climate" for retirement. There is also a very large Catholic community in that part of California (I am Catholic).

Bottom line, in my opinion I was able to confirm that my inability to find someone to date in the DFW area is regional, and is most likely due to my education and moral, religious and political beliefs. Basically, I'm in the wrong state to find someone who can accept me for who I am. My next step is to sit down and run some numbers regarding my ability to relocate and maintain my lifestyle.

Other factors I took into consideration was how safe I felt and how I felt I "belonged". These past two weeks were the first time I've felt safe, comfortable, and accepted since my husband died almost 5 years ago. I have been starved for intellectual conversation (vs politics) since he passed, and I spoke late into the night with people who were doing research in the nuclear industry, engineering, and medicine (I am a chemical and nuclear engineer). I had more conversation in those two weeks than I've had in the past 4.5 years. It's also the first time I've been out and about without having to carry a gun on me. So it's definitely time for me to consider making a move to a city that has more educated people and is more in line with my value system.

I hope this information helps others who are living in a "desert" in terms of finding people to date, or people who share your moral, religious, or personal belief systems.

I 60F moved from San Diego to the midwest 11 years ago with my ex for his career. Fast forward and we are divorced and I’m trying to date and meet someone special. I’m so lost and frustrated. I don’t have family we moved to a small town outside Ann Arbor. When I say small I mean tiny. You can drive from one side of the town to another in 5 minutes. I have no family here and feel so lost. Which seems to hinder my ability to connect with people on a deeper level. I have gone out a few times but haven’t met anyone yet I’m connected with. Also I’m struggling on how to even find someone. I tried OLD and it seems everyone is looking for sex. I’m definitely into have an adult sexual relationship but I need to find someone to connect with first. I’m open to suggestions or ideas on how to make this happen for myself.

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What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?

not a new concept, I know. Just curious which well known women who are 60 or over that people would think of as "sexy." No shade on Jlo, Kris Jenner, Nicole Kidman, etc., who use various types of assistance to look young-that's their privilege and choice. But who are women who actually look over 60 (however one thinks of that) who you would still consider actually "sexy?" And WHY?

And WHY?

Now I'm curious about why people are downvoting this post. Is it just because I'm a pain in the ass or is there something wrong with this question?