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This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

And hopefully my last.

Texted back and forth with this guy on FB dating. Luckily enough people always show their true colors fairly soon for me. As we texted, I got this intuitive feeling of “back away slowly “.

So I did just that, told him I had to take my dog for a walk etc.

Unfortunately upon his request I had given him my number. He texted me all night long until 4 am. The final text was of him (I assume it was him) jerking off.

I may lay off this FB dating for awhile…

My friend has been bragging saying he found a date on reddit. now i don't usually judge or honestly care if he did or didn't. he was saying they had Nsa fun and another lined up. if it's true good for him but he saying reddit is a great place to meet women. it bothers me because he is talking like they are toys not people. so i just wanted to ask has anyone on here meet a lady or a man or is he just full of it I'd love love to call him on it. I'd really appreciate so feedback from cork people please

He calls me his friend yet we don’t do anything together “out”. I see him about three times a week, we talk on the phone, we text, he has asked for my picture (twice) ,

He has said he loves me to death “adding I really mean it”. Complements me on my abilities, my intelligence, my looks. He self deprecates to me, but has also shared very private bits of his life such as finances, health issues, family history. He is protective.

FWIW, he has a very small social circle, a few family members and two or three other guys he mentions and he has told about me.

he said the pic requests where to show them a pic of his friend yet said he would delete if I didn’t want that, but hoped he could keep them for himself.

I do adore him, I respect him and his boundaries and fear if I say something it will ruin a good if limited friendship.

Fellas, what are your thoughts that might explain his behavior? Shy? Guarded? Afraid I’ll reject him? Or am I likely just a friend to him?

I’m thinking of breaking up with my current boyfriend. He is 55 and I’m 63. We’re going on 3 yrs together. Neither of us wants to get married again or move in. There really isn’t anything wrong it’s just stale. The same thing all the time. He’s the only man I’ve been with since my divorce. Neither of us are in love, as far as I know. Not sure what to do.

I really like this video clip--it's only a couple minutes long. The guy looks and talks like an outlaw biker but he's got a brain under all that hair; and his message is that he's trying to help or encourage people who are slogging the same path he is going through now.

I see myself when he talks about his father because that was me up until very recently. In my case I got a couple steps away from it by a combination of life circumstances, professional counselling and some prescription meds that actually help. I'm now (I think) where JW is in trying to deal with things before they crystalize. It's a work in progress.

We have anger issues on this sub. A lot of people have come here when they've been kicked and beaten and disillusioned by a life that hasn't turned out the way they were always led to expect; and now they're later in life in a world they didn't grow up in, and so many of their skills and experience is feels obsolete and valueless. The anger and the frustration comes out in posts and comments, sometimes as a vent, sometimes as a swipe back at a slight or an insult that's real or imagined.

I'm a mod here so I have to be particularly careful about what I say because I don't want to be a hypocrite, and I don't want other people to follow bad examples that I share. But I find myself doing the same thing on other subs and other platforms because I don't want to add to the poison and pollution that's all over the internet, and television, and other media.

So my gratitude this week goes to using this sub, in particular, to practice anger management and getting along with a diversity of people, some of whom I would call friends in real life and some I would avoid as if they were armed and dangerous. It's not easy, but the more I practice, the habit becomes a little more set and it gets just a little easier the next time.

If you got to the end of the video where he says, "love somebody" and you don't feel that you have anyone--love us. You don't have to like us, but love us and treat us as if you did. Maybe it'll pay off in other areas of your life.

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We make a fresh post each week where you can talk about whatever strikes you -- within reason and passable good taste. This is essentially a social hour that lasts a week.

Share your personal triumphs and milestones; get feedback on your dating profile or pics; post a selfie; funny memes; share observations about life or love; ask questions.

Whatever.

I had two dates yesterday.

Bachelor 1: The first was a lunch date that went two hours with a retired 74yo electrical engineer. He was personable, with a rather laid-back personality. He struck me as being out of practice at dating. As in, he wasn't exactly exciting, or boring, just clumsy.

Bachelor 2: My second date was with a semi-retired 69yo managerial type. He was very engaging and charismatic. The date started at a swanky restaurant, and ended five hours later watching fireworks from the long pier near my house.

The Cut: I was swept off my feet by bachelor number two. That is, right up until he started in on Libtards, trannies who recruit school children for surgery against their parents wishes, Mexicans, and Blacks. (Ironically, one of his adult son's GF is an undocumented Mexican immigrant, "but that's different." 🤷)

So it's bachelor 1 getting the nod. I can deal with socially clumsy.

I'm completely new to this OLD thing, and feeling a bit out of my depth.

I was married to the love of my life for 42 years. She was the first and only woman I was ever intimate with. She died 4-1/2 years ago.

Recently, tired of being on my own all the time, I listed my bio in a dating service. I've had a number of responses, and a couple I've followed up on.

I feel a bit like an awkward teenager anticipating a first date. I'm not a brilliant conversationalist. My wife could strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere. I tend to be more quiet and contemplative. Having read some the posts here, it seems that women my age want a man to show interest in their life, but without conspicuously prying. So, what kind of questions are safe to ask?

I haven't gotten that far yet, but first date is likely going to be just meeting for coffee or something like that. How does one greet a lady he's never met? Obviously, the purpose of the meeting is to evaluate potential romantic compatibility, so a handshake seems a bit cool. Is a kiss on the cheek going to be misinterpreted? Is a mild embrace going overboard? Am I just overthinking all of this.

I'll be interested in any thoughts the community have. Don't be too hard on me!

I've been thinking for the past day or so about whether this particular topic is a good idea, since we are a "no politics" sub. I eventually came to the conclusion that DO60 is populated with considerate and thoughtful people who understand the assignment.

What are the things you truly appreciate about the country where you live?

This is a "no snark" zone. Don't do it.

My PSA for the day -

Guys, when making a date, you need to include a specific date, place, and time.

"Maybe we could go out some time," isn't making a date. It's you, passing the monkey of making a date, off to her. Plus, she's not going to realize you're wanting her to ask you out. She's going to simply answer your question.

And don't say, "pick a place and a time, and I'll let you know if I'm free." Her answer will likely be "nowhere," and "never," given you don't think she's worth the bother of having something in mind.

What's prompting this post? One of my neighbors is mad at me. According to him, he's asked me out for at least a year, but I've never accepted. His asking me out? "Maybe we could get a drink sometime," to which I'd reply, "okay."

Please be mindful of this rule:

4. Politics and Religion

There will be no posts/comments naming politicians, political parties or specific ideologies.

It's fine to say that you want someone to share your politics/societal or religious beliefs but it's not okay to condemn or insult those who don't believe the same way you do.

Please consider posting in r/DatingandPolitics.

That's the rule. Be cognizant that slurs used to refer to someone who is a follower of an ideology or party or politician fall under this, even when you are talking about someone calling you those names.

You're all smart people who can figure out how to state situations without using inflammatory terms.

We've now had three posts today that have invited political issues or that have turned political. I didn't think my gratitude post would go there, but there I went thinking.

We don't want that division here.

Thanks, everybody.

It's 100% food--not hair. It just tastes like a ball of hair.

What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

I'm 73f, just moved to a new area to be with family. I've given and gotten a few Likes on Match but nothing that turned out to be mutual interest. Today I get the cyber-equivalent of a cheesy pickup line but hey, he's nice-looking. Conversation continues and he's coming on a bit strong: "I love the fact that we have something in common. I enjoy dancing, going for walks holding hands, listening to music, watching movies, reading, writing, cooking, traveling and playing piano for that special person. "

I did Google search on one of his images. It was from an Instagram post in front of a 16th-century hamam (public bath) in Macedonia. The accompanying text was in Greek.

I may string him along and see what happens when he wants to meet in person. :-)

Posted earlier this week about two separate guys not asking anything about me, but one of them bending my ear about his sword collection.

Well, what the heck, okay, I went on a second date with the sword guy. Maybe he just talked too much out of nerves or whatever. Basically a good guy, a gentleman, so give it another shot.

Three-hour date at a community event, and the same thing. Him, him, him; no interest in anything I had to say. Interrupted me every time I spoke, no questions about myself.

No worries; again, I think he's a good guy, but I'm not interested in a one-way "conversation," so I want to call it off. Might consider being friends only.

Usually I just say that we're not a fit and I wish them well, but I'm now thinking, "I don't think I'm the gal for you" is a better fit because if I WAS the gal for him, certainly he would be interested in me enough to ask about me, not interrupt me, and listen to what I have to say.

Question: Is saying, "I don't think I'm the gal for you," condescending?

Not an earth shattering question, and I've been around the block so I'm not exactly stymied by this situation. Just interested in your replies.

Happy fourth, everyone. Please be sure to snuggle your pets tonight if they need support during the mayhem. ❤️🤍💙

Have a great holiday all, finally getting a small temperature break here, so getting out to enjoy it....

peace and watermelon :)

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What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?