I posted on my lunch catch-up/date the other date and I appreciate all the feedback. I had decided to just treat it as lunch with an old friend and not attach any thoughts of a relationship to it.

However, it turns out she is now divorced (3 years ago).

We had a great visit and find that our situations are similar and our friendship seems to still be strong. After lunch I got a TERRIFIC hug from her and she expressed the desire to get together again soon. I don’t know where, if anywhere, this will go but I feel comfortable now seeing what’s next.

Thanks again for all the feedback!!!!!!!

Just in case you wanted to meet someone in the wild. What day and time do you go grocery shopping?

I barely know where to start bottom line been seeing this guy for five months started out hot and heavy feels pretty good. Seems to have a lot of issues with depression and not feeling well. Probably due to depression. His quirks are getting a little bit on my nerves. He is a really good guy, but I don’t know if I could take This anymore. I am not perfect. I know that. But he seems to get depressed of the things that should make him happy. I haven’t seen him man over a week because we were both away. I thought he’d wanna see me and I do want to see him, but he seems to be in his own head, depressed and now not feeling good and I’m just so tired of itwhat to do what to do

In looking over several Posts here in DO60 over the last few months, I thought it might be cool to share some of our positive go to thoughts, affirmations and feel good phrases we use from time to time to take us to that better place in our head. Is there a favorite saying you love to use that seems to make you feel better? Mine is..." This Too Shall Pass" its something my mother always said to me when I felt down or discouraged about something. Its always seemed to instantly make me feel better. What are some of your favorite, positive mantras or phrases that lift you up?✨️

Since my breakup in early May, and subsequent 6 weeks of depression, I've come to the conclusion that I need to get used to being alone. From past experience I know that the women in my Meetup groups don't date outside of a Meetup, and my favorite group has been meeting at least an hour away, which means $30+ just for gas. My only OLD is Facebook dating. Virtually no responses and when I do get a like it's a woman 2 hours away. Probably going to a movie this afternoon, alone, because I have nobody to ask to go. I'm friendly to a fault and not afraid to flirt while shopping. 63, 6ft3, 180# with all of my hair and blue eyes. Oh, well.

So I’m currently on Bumble and ended up meeting someone 10 years younger than me. Okay in the last 6 weeks, we text twice a day but we have only seen each other twice. He states he is very much into his business blah blah blah.

But how I feel is that he’s just not that much into me, though he says he is, as actions speak louder than words. I’m a great communicator and I have plain come out and told him this, but the man is still busy.

I decided enough was enough and basically “bowed out gracefully “. I have gone through all the possibilities in my head, maybe he’s still married etc. but I’m kind of done giving this too much brain time.

I feel bad as I liked him.

I have a catch-up/lunch date tomorrow with a woman I’ve known for probably 20 years. I haven’t seen her in about four years. There has always been a friendship between us, with some maybe-more-than-friendship tension underneath it.

I’m very interested in a relationship with her and want to see where things go.

THE RUB: The last I knew, she was married and I think she still is.

If she is, I will probably pull back to friendship status—but part of me doesn’t want to. I haven’t had an emotional or romantic connection with anyone since my wife passed away six years ago, and I long for that kind of connection.

TELL ME: I WOULD BE THE BAD GUY IF I PURSUED THIS RELATIONSHIP?

I already know the answer, but I want a relationship soooooo badly. I am so freakin’ lonely.

#EDIT: This is NOT a dating event. This is a social event for people who have gotten to know each other in this community to meet.

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Reminder, the deadline for the lower rate is this Thursday. I'm going to try to get that extended.

Reminder 2, this trip is for known regulars.

If anyone has questions, feel free to message me. I just made a few new posts in the trip sub.

https://www.reddit.com/r/DO60_Meetup_2026/s/nS3pRkpeIx

I went on an adventure, what I call dates, today. Someone who I’ve known for years and we’ve gone to a few parties and concerts together this summer. I think we’re just friends and I’ve wondered why it hasn’t gone further.
We were walking and talking and I was telling him about how I was leading a drum circle for the first time. He smiled and said something like “of course, you’re a good drummer too” and it made me think that for some people, my curiosity , skills and talents could be a lot. I wonder if any possible partner could feel like they’re not enough?
I don’t expect someone else to be like me, but I also don’t want to dim my light. I would want someone to be happy for my many ways of finding joy and encourage that.
I guess I’m having deep thoughts after a baseball game and dinner. But I have great times and I’m sure I’m good company. I also feel a little uncomfortable with being treated to concerts, games and dinners. I have offered to pay but he would not do that. I need to learn to be ok with it. He’s happy to have someone to do fun things with.
Thanks for letting me share.

I saw this ad on facebook. I didn’t know anyone living like this lol. Although i think they were on the other side of my town, where the “rich girls” lived.

https://fb.watch/J2TJEl1WjW/?

It’s an ad for an independent Aussie film about decadence amongst parents i guess. Called safari summer i think produced by Yowza, in case you want to look without clicking the link.

At this point, this concept seems to be being milked. What do others think? I do relate to being a generation jones, and definitely agree it was miles different from those born at the beginning of the boomer years. And i did have enormous freedom although my situation was unique. But definitely something was going on with many parents, considering the way we feral teens roamed the streets all weekend, pulling all nighters, and switching boyfriends and girlfriends.

F-53 talked to M-61 for over an hour for our first chat, he remarked we talked over an hour and then I ended the call because I had an early shift the next day- I work in the Healthcare Industry.

Immediately after I said what a refreshing first chat, have pleasant dreams. He responded this morning that he agreed and wished me a blessed day.

No mention of meeting, no personalized follow up. This is giving low effort to me!

Thoughts?? Anyone else have a good long first phone call and then nothing?

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This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

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hi guys!
just joined this forum, and excited to be here and glean, some honest input and encouragement.
i’ve been living on my own now, and out of a relationship for over five years. It was a long-term long distance relationship, and truly thought she was my person. Life and Covid threw us a curveball and brought that to an end.
so here I am now, considering online dating, and to be honest, it scares the hell out of me. I am and have been living independently, not looking for a caretaker, but looking for a partner someone with whom to share the laughs and the cuddles. What scares me most is the impact of the loss of my vision, and how that might be perceived and what if anything I can do to make people see past that if it all possible.
I certainly understand, the concerns that it would bring up. I am very independent, an excellent cook, an excellent baker very much love social events, going out with friends, as much as I love having quiet moments at home.
I use my challenge to adapt and overcome, I just need to get a handle on how to have other see past it.
would very much love to hear all your thoughts and input, please and thank you!

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What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

The following is an exerpt from the brain foundation about the benefits of gratitude.

The Benefits of Gratitude

Ultimately gratitude is more complex than merely expressing courtesy or focusing on positive thinking. When you regularly focus or meditate on what you are thankful for, it causes effects that promote well-being, including psychological and physical health. Here are some remarkable benefits: 

Gratitude helps you develop a more positive mindset. 

Gratitude reduces stress. 

Gratitude reduces anxiety.

Gratitude reduces depression.

Gratitude improves emotional resilience. 

Gratitude improves focus. 

Gratitude improves immunity.

Gratitude improves sleep.

Gratitude helps with social bonding.

Gratitude can improve general health concerns.

DO60, do you practice gratitude daily? If not, are you convinced to start now?

Which of the benefits are most important to you?

I love this site! It’s opened a brand new world of dating for me. Funny thing - I’ve seen a selfie or two posing with furry elephants in the snow on several profiles. Odd but cute.

Things are really warming up with a few matches and the ice seems to be melting quite rapidly.

It’s called Carbon Dating. 😂 😂

Edit: yes, this is a joke and it’s not an advertisement. It’s simply to make everyone’s day a little bit better. Carbon dating is a method to determine how old an organic based artifact is - that’s the punchline. 😊