u/Gooseberry_Sprig

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This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

I really like this video clip--it's only a couple minutes long. The guy looks and talks like an outlaw biker but he's got a brain under all that hair; and his message is that he's trying to help or encourage people who are slogging the same path he is going through now.

I see myself when he talks about his father because that was me up until very recently. In my case I got a couple steps away from it by a combination of life circumstances, professional counselling and some prescription meds that actually help. I'm now (I think) where JW is in trying to deal with things before they crystalize. It's a work in progress.

We have anger issues on this sub. A lot of people have come here when they've been kicked and beaten and disillusioned by a life that hasn't turned out the way they were always led to expect; and now they're later in life in a world they didn't grow up in, and so many of their skills and experience is feels obsolete and valueless. The anger and the frustration comes out in posts and comments, sometimes as a vent, sometimes as a swipe back at a slight or an insult that's real or imagined.

I'm a mod here so I have to be particularly careful about what I say because I don't want to be a hypocrite, and I don't want other people to follow bad examples that I share. But I find myself doing the same thing on other subs and other platforms because I don't want to add to the poison and pollution that's all over the internet, and television, and other media.

So my gratitude this week goes to using this sub, in particular, to practice anger management and getting along with a diversity of people, some of whom I would call friends in real life and some I would avoid as if they were armed and dangerous. It's not easy, but the more I practice, the habit becomes a little more set and it gets just a little easier the next time.

If you got to the end of the video where he says, "love somebody" and you don't feel that you have anyone--love us. You don't have to like us, but love us and treat us as if you did. Maybe it'll pay off in other areas of your life.

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We make a fresh post each week where you can talk about whatever strikes you -- within reason and passable good taste. This is essentially a social hour that lasts a week.

Share your personal triumphs and milestones; get feedback on your dating profile or pics; post a selfie; funny memes; share observations about life or love; ask questions.

Whatever.

It's 100% food--not hair. It just tastes like a ball of hair.

What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

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What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?

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This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

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We make a fresh post each week where you can talk about whatever strikes you -- within reason and passable good taste. This is essentially a social hour that lasts a week.

Share your personal triumphs and milestones; get feedback on your dating profile or pics; post a selfie; funny memes; share observations about life or love; ask questions.

Whatever.

Chicken sandwich and coffee

What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

Source is ST:TOS (LGT YouTube)

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What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?

Inspired by the An experiment in solo travel post. This is the place to post your vacation photos.

The ground rules:

• Photos must be original. If you went to Paris, post a photo you took in Paris, don't use a photo off Google Image Search of Paris; don't use a photo that AI cooked up.
• Photos should from this summer of 2026.
• Please don't post images of people who cannot consent to being posted here.
• Please don't swamp us with images. A few well chosen pix will do far better than a dozen.
• Selfies are okay; you can blur or obscure your face if you want the image but don't want to be recognized.

If this goes over well, we'll have a new one for Fall '26, etc.

trigger warning: not dating related.

I like to beat this drum periodically. A friend of mine just lost a parent and is now having to manage the estate. It was sudden and unexpected.

If you give a damn about your heirs, or about what happens to you or your stuff after you're gone, or even what happens to you if you're not able to make decisions for yourself--permanently or even temporarily--get your affairs in order.

If you don't have a Will, make one. If you already have a will, look at it and see if it needs to be updated.

If you don't have a Living Will or an Advanced Health Care Directive or whatever it's called where you live--get one. That's the one that tells people what to do if you're incapacitated. Do you want to be kept on life support? Do you want extreme measures taken to keep you alive? Do you want to prioritize comfort? Do you want euthanasia if it's legal and available? Who gets to determine what happens to you? If you already have one--is it up to date? Can people find it in a hurry if they need it?

It would also be a good idea to make sure people know what you expect when you're gone, even if you have it mentioned in a will, just so it's not a surprise. Do you want a funeral? Do you want a burial, or ashes in an urn in the house, or scattered in the sea or somewhere ashes are allowed to be disposed? Do you want to be embalmed and varnished and kept in a glass box on display in a museum, or stood outside a cigar store? Do you want your head cut off and cryogenically frozen?

All kidding aside--"if I get that bad, just shoot me" is not an option in most first-world countries. "I'll let my kids figure out what to do with all the stuff" isn't a kindness to them when they're going through your stuff and trying to make rational decisions on things that are loaded with emotions, both good and bad.

Assuming we're all at least sixty here, we can reasonably assume another 10-40 years of life left; but you don't know how much lead time you're going to get on when the end is coming. Sometimes you get years. Sometimes you get months. Sometimes you get about 5 seconds.

Sorry to be a downer, but dealing with estates is usually a tour of Hell. How much of it your heirs or survivors see of it can depend on your own actions now.

End of PSA

This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

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What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?

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This is a weekly roundup--your chance to post how things went (or fizzled) for dating over the previous week. That could include # of profiles viewed and swiped, scammers contacted, duds ferreted out, texts, phone calls, video calls, meetups, dates, breakups, ghosts, re-contacts, unsolicited dick pics, and so on. They can be counts, summaries, reflections, rants (within community guidelines), success stories, sad stories, funny stories, warnings to others. It's up to you.

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What's for dinner, lunch, a midnight snack, something left on the counter that either has to be eaten or thrown away because it's too old to save? Meal ideas, recipes, guilty pleasures, pictures of the dish with could-be-meat-could-be-cake in the back of the refrigerator, and other food-related stuff is welcome here.

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We make a fresh post each week where you can talk about whatever strikes you -- within reason and passable good taste. This is essentially a social hour that lasts a week.

Share your personal triumphs and milestones; get feedback on your dating profile or pics; post a selfie; funny memes; share observations about life or love; ask questions.

Whatever.

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What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?