u/Dizzy_External2549

I heard it's very expensive to live here. But I want to move here. I wonder how to native Hawaiians and locals feel about moving there? I'm planning to move with 200k in savings but I'm looking for a software engineering front end job. Would 60-70k a year be doable? I want to rent 3k-3.5k a month. maybe 4k. I also plan on getting a second job. I'm in my mid 20s. I'm just curious on how it is there. I am also black and wonder how it is for other black people there.

When you are creating a project/website or whatever. Do you google things ? Ask Ai? I have this weird perception that I think all developers who are like years into it are able to code websites from pure memory and don't need any help. Like I feel like with the projects I want to create I'm supposed to know how to code every single thing from memory. Am I wrong? Am I able to code the things I know how to code and if I get stuck ask google or ai to help with some code for a project for an employer or do I need to know how to code this all with no help?

When you are creating a project/website or whatever. Do you google things ? Ask Ai? I have this weird perception that I think all developers who are like years into it are able to code websites from pure memory and don't need any help. Like I feel like with the projects I want to create I'm supposed to know how to code every single thing from memory. Am I wrong? Am I able to code the things I know how to code and if I get stuck ask google or ai to help with some code for a project for an employer or do I need to know how to code this all with no help?

I'm 24 and currently living with my mom in Virginia while I save up to move out. I've been documenting her behavior for a while now and I just need to get this out.

This has started since i was very young but I've only remember the first time when I found money on the ground and instantly she took it and bought clothes with it. Growing up she would always take me to her friends house who was a man and he would give her money, Fast forward I am now 24 but when I was at 19 and first got a job she would take money out of every paycheck I got. Everytime I had a source of income she would always take and say "Since you are my son and you live with me you should help pay rent or bills" so I thought that was fair. Mind you anytime she would get money from me she would always order about of crap from amazon. When I was 19 she also told me to k*** myself multiple times because she found out I was gay by going through my phone text messages by going to the service provider in person and having the guy read her the text messages. Fast forward to when Im 23 I get a tennis club job, my first paycheck she takes 300$ from me because she needs it for "Rent" I forgot to tell you. she was getting paid 30$ or 25$ an hour at this time and rent is only 1700. She gets paid twice a month. Every other paycheck she would ask for money everytime. When christmas came. I forgot to add I started that tennis club job in the summer so when around christmas came she asked me for a 200$ jacket which made no fucking sense why not get a jacket for 30$? or something cheap? why a 200$ fucking jacket? she also then asks "do you have christmas money?" and i lied and said no im broke and she cussed me out. fast forward to januray. i forgot to add anytime I would say I don't have money or I refused to give her any she would ALWAYS say "Im kicking you out" or "Im a single mother" or "You never help me with anything" So im pretty sure as i Remember in in jan-feb-march I gave her more money and i pretty sure around may-apr-june i gave her 2300$ for "Rent" i dont know why i did that. then the day after i give her 2300 she asks for MORE money. I have screenshots of ALL of this. then i forgot to add in the spring months she literally is like saying how shes kicking me out and she doesnt want me to live with her anymore and she says how I never help her with bills ,etc mind you everytime she would get paid from her job, she would ALWAYS get shit from amazon. Like literally 2 packages every other day for 2-3 weeks! I would have to get for her. Then at the end of the month youll hear "I need help with rent" . When she was kicking me out I was begging her to let me save up because I knew I wouldnt be able to survive. I had never lived on my own before and I wanted to save up to a safe amount. So around june I was begging her, etc she kept saying no and how she wants me out so i gave up and said ok in september i will be out, a month goes by and im apartment hunting, etc and another month goes by. Its like early maybe mid august, I had already found an apartment and signed the lease virtually. Guess what? She says I can stay, At the last fucking moment after I begged her for basically months and her saying no, she waits until after I sign the lease, (she didnt know i signed one but) I kid you not It was literally like 3 days after I signed the lease she said i could stay. During those months I think she took more money during that time. But I moved across country with only 11-12k in savings and I blame MYSELF for how my money managing went during this time because I sucked at managing my money when I was living alone, after she kicked me out but again I NEVER wanted to move out, I literally knew what would happen if I moved out with that amount. So when Im across country shes texting me every other day asking how i am, etc. Being nice for NO REASON and then one day she finally apologizes for how she was and how she treated me, I laughed when I read that text. She never apologized to me ever in her life, at that point she was asking me to come back, etc. i was running out of money, mental health wasnt good there either, so I went back like an idiot. When I walked in the front door of my moms house She gave me the most evil look ever like she was mad I was back, AFTER SHE WAS TEXTING ME EVERY DAY saying how much she missed me, I went to my room and I fucking told myself I was lied to. Because I was. Fast forward I get fired from my job at the tennis club because They thought I was "skipping" when I had a GUT infection that lasted for 2-3 months and i had explosive diarrhea and I told my supervisor that 3 different times!! before that fired me, I also was their best worker before I "moved" and they got rid of me so easily. I was working 6 days a week there before my mom kicked me out. Now today I am typing on my computer in my room after my mom sent me a horrible text on how i never help her with anything. a month ago i gave her 1300$ and month before i gave her money. I am NOT GIVING HER ANYMORE MONEY and I made that clear. EVER again. I only have 350$ in my savings account which sucks but its something. I just want to live my life and get married, etc and be financially stable. But its SOOOO hard. Im tired of being used man. I am also now in debt 12k to the apartment complex! I called every rent assisting place and they are out of funds. I asked my mom to help me and she wont help at all. after everything i did to help her

Wondering if any have a tech job and work here remotely

I would like some advice from well experienced devs that you would give to junior devs

Hi there I have a question for black Hawaiian locals. just wondering how bad the racism there is? A friend who is black told me he moved there in 2012 and said he was experienced awful racism from the native Hawaiians, whites, Asians, etc. I am confused. I know racism is everywhere but I didn't think it would be crazy in Hawaii especially with the history. Also white people being racist in Hawaii is very surprising to me. I just want to know from other black Hawaiians what were your experiences there with this topic?