Struggling a lot
I’m not sure if this counts as ace, but it’s at least ace adjacent…
I have zero desire to have sex with my husband but I do it to make him happy and it makes me miserable. Here’s the weird part: I’ve had sexual attraction in the past but once I form an attachment to someone I lose all sexual attraction to them. I enjoyed sex with my husband the first couple times and haven’t since. I can count on one hand the number of enjoyable sexual encounters I’ve had in my life and I’m 34. I *want* to want to have sex. I have major FOMO bc i don’t. I also want to please my husband who is always horny but like I said, forcing myself to have sex makes me unhappy. I want to make him happy but I know sex is a need for him . I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for 10 years and have a baby. I know he won’t want to leave me if I tell him but he will be unhappy.
Can anyone relate? Any advice or words of encouragement?