Does anyone ever feel invisible/forgotten about?
Hey there, I don't know if this counts as asking for advice but I just need someone to give me some directions or help or something that’s happening in my life right now. I have held off writing/making this a post as I try and keep people out of what is really happening to me. Anyways enough rambling here’s some context.
So about 3 year ago my mum passed away. It was deeply traumatic for a lot of my family. In those 3 years, I've found out I am autistic and my dog (my best friend since loosing my mums passing) also died and I graduated university and have a volunteer job. Also in those years, my dad got a new girlfriend, she is my mums best friend. I had never met this lady before my mum passed mostly bcs my mum rarely left the house and struggled to keep her friends and keep in touch with anyone asides her husband and kids. I am happy my dad’s found someone else, I am so happy he has someone his age to talk to and someone who won’t be mad at late night coffees. But I've been having issues.
Since they began dating, they've been very weird about me and my existence as a whole. I am used to the neurotypical laugh at everything a neurodivergent person says, but these moments are different. One time girlfriend made a comment about how I ate too much and how she was jealous of that bcs I’m really skinny. She did this in front of my dad and instead of him standing up and saying hey not cool he just laughed and I immediately left my house to cry and struggled to find an appetite this day. They are now thinking it’s “annoying” I live at home, as in they act like I bother them and cringe them out. I'll be wanting to talk to my dad and her when they come in and they always give me funny looks and I wish I could read cues and translate. Recently my dad’s been hanging with girlfriend a lot more and it hurts immensely as I don't have a big social circle (I only have about 3 friends but many comrades). I used to rely on my dad to balance out my social circle as we both didn't have much regular characters in our lives asides each other and my sister (she then moved) and now we barely see each other and I hate this change. When my dog passed, she went right next to me and it was scary. I won’t give details however it was awful for me. You might think maybe my dad would understand that but no it apparently gave him the green light to hang with his girlfriend more. I’ve tried making plans with him and asking him to do something with me as I feel alone most days and just need my dad.
On my dad, I've been trying to distract myself from it, I have a volunteer job currently as I am trying to find actual work. So my asking is for any advice on trying to find friends or a way to get my dad to do things with me? I also ask if anyone’s been through similar, how did they cope?