Ok so I may have made a big dating mistake and I don’t really know how to handle it.
First off I am old school when it comes to dating so this situation is completely new and a forigen concept to me.
I am dating two women at the same time let’s say woman A and woman B just to keep thing’s straight. I met them both on hinge at roughly the same time.
A is smart, funny, caring, kind and supportive we hit it off from the first message and it was smooth sailing to the first date. We chatted daily and still do.
B was a bit more aloof in the beginning and hard to read but seemed funny and asked a very good few opening questions but was very slow to respond so I thought I’ll keep talking but probably little will come from her. But I do tell her that I am dating A and it is going well and while we are not exclusive it could go that way and hear nothing for a day or two. Then she hits me with do you want to just have a fwb setup?
I thought ok weird but maybe. So I mention to A about women having some sort of radar for when men get off market to make their presence known as this was just after our date and I was going to turn down all these other women that poped up on hinge. She tells me we are not a thing yet you can date other people as you please I’m doing the same. So you can see where this is going I accept the invitation of B but only if she is serious thinking she was joking. She was not joking.
She wanted some companionship while she works on herself no strings attached. Ok fine so we work out details days type of communication etc. Now to the blunder and it’s bad. I stupidly being friendly tell her not knowing how much communication she wants outside of our arrangement good morning and hope your day goes well and all that jazz. And holy shit the floodgates opened up to the most amazing conversation I have had in a long time.
She is an artist at heart she is a singer and a total hippy girl. She linked me her Spotify album and she is good, a voice like liquid honey. Now the dilemma is I’m not supposed to fall in love with this girl. How in the world am I going to not do that? She picked me because I’m seeing someone else.
How badly am I screwed?
I’m at work so I may not get to reply very quickly at all. Yes this is real it’s not a movie or a tv show or book. Im in my mid 40s the women are mid 30s and low 30s.