u/DoomedKnife

For context. I 20M and my ex 21F jackie (not name) lived together for a while. I found out that she cheated on me and stole 500 a month to use on gambling.

After we broke up, jackie ended up moving to her mothers. She is wants me to pay her bills and everything because I promised her that if we broke up that I'd do that. Jackie never wanted a job so I gave her the option to be a housewife.

How she ruined my life: I am currently unable to afford rent due to her constantly making absolutely psychopathic threats while I was at work. I had to keep going out of work due to her being a psychopath and saying stuff like "I'm going to burn your home if you do not come back by X" or "If I catch your dog, I'll kill it."

How I could ruin her life: Jackie's mother is getting government help and Jackie is claiming the same benefits but under my address since she's legally a Tennant. If I remove her from the tenancy agreement then she'll have to change her address to her mother's which will make them unable to pay for necessities. Also I could mess her life up by taking back everything I lent to her such as a PC that is being used by the whole family to study, complete homework or Jackie playing with the dude she cheated on me with.

WIBTA if I messed her life up for her psychotic behaviour?

WIBTA

I (20m) recently broke up with my ex (21f).

2 weeks into the relationship ex decided to add her ex back onto her snapchat and never told me he was her ex.

3 weeks later I realised that something funny was going on and that she spent way too much time talking to said person so I checked her phone and found out that it in fact was an ex and there were NSFW pics of her still saved in the chat I confronted her and she said it was months ago so it didn't matter.

2 months later in the relationship she started to talk to one of my online mates while I was at work and they were oddly close with him saying that they've been doing the dirty over the camera while I was asleep next to her which I have yet to confirm or deny. I went on her phone again and messaged him from her phone acting asif it was her and he was getting oddly sexual so I got ex to decide to block him or leave. She chose to block him.

2 months in she decided that she wanted to open to a poly relationship and already had someone in mind which that person did not share the same feelings as her.

5 months in we moved out to a flat which I payed 100% for. And everything I thought was going well. Then 2 months later she started cheating on me with that dude just before my grandmother's funeral which I didn't find out for months.

8 months in I found out she was cheating on me by going through her phone and seeing what was going on. We spoke about everything and she wanted him to become one of her poly partners. To stop drama I agreed. However she was spending most of her time talking and playing with him than she did me and blamed me for everything saying that I just didn't want to do anything with her.

9 months in, I found out that she was a hardcore gambling addict for months that was borrowing money from people and using my money saying it was for "bills".

10 months in, I had enough as she was treating me like shit and focusing on her poly partner and not me. So I gave her the ultimatum, either cut contact with him so we can rebuild trust or leave. She chose to leave.

I got her most things she owns including the stuffed that gave her the ability to cheat. Would I be the asshole if I took back all the stuff I got her, especially the ones that she used to cheat?