Need advice. Is it normal to be upset over material things in a relationship ?
So I have a very important event coming up in my life. And my bf can’t stop talking about it and how happy he was for me. I didn’t ask for any expensive gift of whatsoever. I only asked for flowers. Thats it. But he insisted on giving a a jewelry. I let him be. He asked me for my size etc and purchased it online. My bf loves expensive shit okay? He loves his luxury watch and shoes and clothes everything..
Now, after purchasing the gift, he won’t stop talking about it. How expensive it is, worth around 3k dollar and telling me how lucky I am to receive a gift that cost thousands. Well ofc, as a girl. Im got excited of what its gonna look like since he’s not telling me. I even tried to mock him and ask him “is this pandora?” And he said shit nah cus thats cheaper. And I just laughed
Then 3 weeks has passed and my event is getting closer. He suddenly told me that he just cancelled his gift, and his reason was, “i think thats too expensive for a gift. I changed my mind. I cancelled my order” and i was speechless. He said it like it was nothing. Like literally nothing. After telling me about it almost everyday. Making me all excited and hes gonna tell me that he just cancelled it. I got disappointed ofc. Who wouldn’t be? 3 days ago, he bought 2 watches worth 2k each and keep on bragging about it on me. No hard feelings. Im so used to him bragging things that he can afford expensive shit.
But now that I think about it, I feel less. Like, r u really telling me you cancelled a gift just bcos i dont deserve it cus its too expensive? And guess what’s the next thing he told me? He said, I just ordered a 300 worth of jewelry. That should be fine. 🥹 I was speechless bruh. And the only thing that comes out of my mouth was “I thought u said Pandora was cheap? Its almost in the same price range tho” and he got upset telling me I don’t appreciate his gift and effort like bro. You made me excited and you even made me feel like i owe you something for buying me that expensive shit. How he brag to me I can’t even afford to buy a thousand worth of jewelry. And then he will tell me he canceled it and just got me a cheaper cus i dont deserve it. Lol
Pls tell me my feelings are valid. Cus this did not just happened once. He did that to me a lot. Telling me he got it all planned and then last minute, he will cancel everything. I dont know. And I feel like, I should be the one saying sorry since i offended him?? 😬🤣
PS. We’ve been together for 7 years and known each other for more than a decade. Hahahaha