27 [F4M] Just wanted to share my experience
I met someone here on Reddit in r/singleph and we’ve been talking for almost a month. I genuinely liked how he conversed, he seemed mature, intelligent and we clicked easily. He also told me he was emotionally available and looking to settle down which made me feel like we were on the same page.
The day we were supposed to meet, he picked me up right outside our gate. Everything went well. We went for a walk, which was actually what we had already planned prior to meeting. He was a gentleman the entire time and I honestly would say he was really smart and easy to talk to.
Before meeting up, he mentioned he came all the way from the South. I appreciated the effort a lot. He also said he might book a room afterward to rest and sleep before driving back home since he had been on the road for hours.
I asked him, "No malice, but can I join you if you’re getting a room? There’s a rotational brownout in our area and I need to charge my phone since it’s already dead". He said, "Yes, sure you can".
Fast forward, we were already in the room. We watched a movie and I even told him to get some rest since he still had a long drive ahead. I didn’t feel any harm being with him.
Meanwhile, he asked if he could hug me and I said yes. I felt butterflies while we were hugging and before I knew it we were already kissing but I stopped it because it didn’t feel right and we were both talking about wanting something longterm and it felt like things were moving too fast. I told him we should stop and just rest instead and I went back to watching the movie.
After a few minutes, things changed. He started using force trying to make me lie down and get on top of me. I immediately said firmly, "If you don’t stop, I will consider what you are doing is rape". That’s when he stopped right away. After that, I told him "Yes, I initiated coming here with you but that does not give you permission to use force on me".
He went quiet, apologized and told me to just continue watching while I charged my phone and that he would just rest.
Afterward, he still drove me home and dropped me off.
I’m sharing this for self-awareness and as a gentle reminder for guys to please be clear and intentional with your intentions from the beginning. There’s no need to be deceptive or hypocrite just be honest about what you’re really looking for so we, as women, can better set our boundaries and expectations.
I blocked him already! 😂