AITBF for not talking my brother out of dropping out of his masters?
Jake is 24 and started a masters in engineering last September. My parents were really proud, they brought it up a lot.
About two months in he called me sounding pretty low. Said the course wasnt what he expected and that he'd been offered a position at a small tech company he actually wanted to take. He asked what I thought. I said if he felt that strongly about it then it sounded like he already knew what he wanted to do.
He dropped out and took the job. That was about two months ago.
My parents called me the same evening he told them. It came out that Jake had mentioned talking to me first. My mom said I should have told him to speak to them before making any decisions. My dad said I had no business weighing in on something that big.
I didn't tell him to drop out. I just didn't tell him not to. I'm not sure what the difference is in their eyes.
Jake seems genuinely fine. He texts me updates about the job sometimes. My mom picked up when I called last week but kept it short and my dad hasn't really engaged since. I keep wondering if I should have just said talk to mum and dad first and stayed out of it entirely, but he was asking me and that felt like the wrong answer too.
AITBF?