Me and this guy, I'll call him Derek, have worked together for about two years. We're friendly, eat lunch together sometimes, nothing deep but genuinely fine.
About a month ago I got a call from his gym saying there'd been an incident and they were trying to reach his emergency contact. Which was apparently me. First I'd heard of it. Derek was fine, just a minor thing, but I spent about twenty minutes on the phone with strangers trying to figure out what was happening and whether I needed to actually do anything.
I called Derek after and asked him when he'd listed me. He said a while back, said he figured I wouldn't mind because we get along and I seem reliable. I told him it would have been nice to be asked first. He apologized and I let it go.
Then last week I found out he'd also listed me at his doctor's office. Same thing, found out by accident when they called to confirm an appointment and mentioned my name as the contact.
I told him I needed him to take me off both lists and ask before adding me to anything going forward. He got actually annoyed. Said I was making a big deal out of nothing and that emergency contacts are just a formality and he'd never actually need me to do anything serious.
I said that's not really the point. He's been weird with me since.
A few people I've told think I overreacted because it's "just a form." But I've now gotten two unexpected calls from strangers about this guy's personal situations and I didn't sign up for either of them. AITAH for pulling back?