u/DotElectrical5085

I recently posted here that I am looking for students to tutor and up for paid projects. I am a GNC (Guidance Navigation and Controls) Engineer working in a UAE based company.

I received a lot of messages after that post, people asking for guidance regarding job market and how to actually land a job. So I decided to make a separate post on it. This post is not specific for aerospace; it's just a general advice on how to go about finding a job.

To the fresh graduates or people struggling to find a job, you first need to know your skills and weaknesses. What sets you apart? What can you offer the company that decides to hire you?

I have worked in 3 different companies across 2 different countries since I started working. The one thing I always did was research on what the company is doing presently, what are the things they have already achieved, and what they aim on doing.

I specifically researched what they were doing in my area of interest (i.e., Guidance, Navigation and Controls). What softwares were they using, what techniques were they implementing (PID? NDI? MPC? SMC?). If most of the things they were working on actually aligned well with my skillset, I would update my CV to highlight the things the company was already working on, this shows relevance and already sets your CV apart.

If their work is different than what you've previously worked on and you really want that role, start working on learning those things. Learn NDI, MPC, SMC, H-infinity or any other controller you have to. Not just learn it, but implement it; and not just implement it, do it in a practical way (by practical I mean if you're an aerospace engineer, apply your learning to an aircraft not a pendulum).

To be very honest, that's the best thing you can do. Some other advice I can give you briefly is:

1. Stop using LLMs to do your work for you, especially technical one.

2. Learn to think for yourself and solve problems yourself rather than prompt engineering your problem and passing it to an LLM.

3. Learn the company and the role first before applying.

4. Always update your CV to highlight the projects and skills the company has stated in their Job Description.

5. For GNC aspirants especially, I would advise you to learn PN guidance as a starter, learn visual guidance if you have to. Know your filters. Learn signal processing. Know your bode plots and linear analysis tools. Know your Flight Dynamics and Stability. Learn gain scheduling if you have not already. Then move on to NDI with PID. This should be enough to land a job.

Other engineers working in the industry are also requested to share their valuable advice.

Hi everyone, I'm (25M) an aerospace engineer, graduated with honors and a medal. I'm currently working as a GNC (Guidance, Navigation and Controls) Engineer in UAE based company.

My day-to-day work is focused on, as the job title suggests, working on guidance and control of aerial vehicles of various types. State estimation, controller development, stability analysis, flight dynamics modeling are my few core skills.

If anyone here is currently enrolled in college and needs assistance with any of the subjects (I specialize in controls but I can provide tutoring for other subjects as well), they can hit me up.

If some of you are already in industry and are still fresh and need guidance, you can just put your questions here and I will guide as much as I can.

My wife often disrespects me and now she called me an animal

Me (26M) and my wife (25F) have been married for 2 years. It was a love marriage. We have known each other for around 4 years as we worked together in a firm.

We used to go out together and hang out a lot before marriage, during our engagement era. We were engaged 1 year before our wedding.

During all this time, I've known my wife to be a very short tempered and sharp tongued person. These two qualities are the worst in marriage and these two together can literally be a home wrecker. She is very reactive while I tend to shut down. Another worst combination for marriages.

We have had many fights over the last couple of years. Most of these have happened because she did not like something I did or didn't like why I didn't do something about something. She calls me an avoidant and that I shut her away and I don't take stands for her. Keep in mind that I stayed firm when her family, especially her father was not agreeing to the marriage in the beginning; both in front of my family and in front of hers.

After all these fights, I have initiated makeups 99% of the times, even at times I felt that the mistake was not really mine (even when she disrespected me and called me things and sometimes I did the same to her). More recently, I have made her realize that she has severe anger issues which she says are because of my behavior, but I tried to make her understand that my behavior does not justify the things she says and how she disrespects me. She agreed to seeing a psychiatrist for her anger issues. I couldn't find one because I am short on money these days and couldn't afford one.

We had a fight yesterday after she told me that she feels my family does not give her much importance, nor did they take much interest in our wedding (they didn't call her to ask her about her dress or anything, but they did pay for it, bought her other gifts and such. Her family never asked me too but according to her it's not the same for men and I kind of agree). I told her she needs to leave it and that it will get better with time. She told me not to expect anything from her if my family isn't giving her the best treatment, she won't make any efforts too, to which I said okay in a slightly harsh tone and I told her to stop over thinking about it and that it will improve. I ended the call after this conversation and told her I had to go somewhere. She then told me on text that she's angry at me. I told her I'm not in the mood, I'm not feeling well. She then started saying again that I'm selfish and avoidant, a run-away. I told her that I run away because she stresses me out. She said don't talk to me now neither are you capable of talking. I told her she has never ending issues, to which she said that with a family like yours, who would not have issues.

I then blocked her for a while, hoping that this would give her time to calm down (my fault for thinking that blocking her would make her calm). I then unblocked her and told her that I blocked her so she stopped saying brainless stuff. She then said to me that I am the most brainless person ever. I told her you need to see a psychiatrist to which she replied "You need to reborn, because only that can change your mindset".

I blocked her on WhatsApp and she kept spamming

" I hate you" On Instagram so I deactivated Instagram. We're not living together because I'm in a different city for some weeks and she's at her parents. The next morning she texted me on sim that marrying me was the worst mistake of her life. I did not reply. She then texted me again if she could call me. I told her she can call me only if she's not going to lash out on me. She told me she won't. She called, asked about my health, we talked a little about a few things, she was acting like she was normal and like didn't have just recently texted me that marrying me was the worst mistake of her life. Eventually we ended the call. I was still angry at her and I know she was still angry at me. I thought she called to say sorry but I know her enough that I didn't get my hopes up. Because she never ever initiates Amy makeups and it's always me who does it.

After a few hours she told me again that shes angry at me and I told her that I am angry at her too. It then started a long debate about my family not making her feel welcomed (she hasn't called my mother in so long, my mother has been sick and I've even told her shes sick). I then told her to get out of her own head and stop stressing me out too. She replied "You are an animal, a selfish avoidant animal". I blocked her.

She then texted me on sim saying she's gonna talk to her father about khula. Which I know is just a bluff, she wants me to react.

I'm in a tough spot right now. I try to be understanding and supportive but she keeps bringing up the same things and keeps stressing me out. As I said earlier, she is overly reactive. And sometimes it even feels like she feeds off of these emotions, like they somehow make her feel strong, because she feels like a totally different person during these episodes. She does everything to get my attention, messages me on sim, Instagram, if we're face to face she would just bully me into talking and fighting back. I don't know whether to carry on this marriage or end it for good.

Me (26M) and my wife (25F) have been married for 2 years. It was a love marriage. We have known each other for around 4 years as we worked together in a firm.

We used to go out together and hang out a lot before marriage, during our engagement era. We were engaged 1 year before our wedding.

During all this time, I've known my wife to be a very short tempered and sharp tongued person. These two qualities are the worst in marriage and these two together can literally be a home wrecker. She is very reactive while I tend to shut down. Another worst combination for marriages.

We have had many fights over the last couple of years. Most of these have happened because she did not like something I did or didn't like why I didn't do something about something. She calls me an avoidant and that I shut her away and I don't take stands for her. Keep in mind that I stayed firm when her family, especially her father was not agreeing to the marriage in the beginning; both in front of my family and in front of hers.

After all these fights, I have initiated makeups 99% of the times, even at times I felt that the mistake was not really mine (even when she disrespected me and called me things and sometimes I did the same to her). More recently, I have made her realize that she has severe anger issues which she says are because of my behavior, but I tried to make her understand that my behavior does not justify the things she says and how she disrespects me. She agreed to seeing a psychiatrist for her anger issues. I couldn't find one because I am short on money these days and couldn't afford one.

We had a fight yesterday after she told me that she feels my family does not give her much importance, nor did they take much interest in our wedding (they didn't call her to ask her about her dress or anything, but they did pay for it, bought her other gifts and such. Her family never asked me too but according to her it's not the same for men and I kind of agree). I told her she needs to leave it and that it will get better with time. She told me not to expect anything from her if my family isn't giving her the best treatment, she won't make any efforts too, to which I said okay in a slightly harsh tone and I told her to stop over thinking about it and that it will improve. I ended the call after this conversation and told her I had to go somewhere. She then told me on text that she's angry at me. I told her I'm not in the mood, I'm not feeling well. She then started saying again that I'm selfish and avoidant, a run-away. I told her that I run away because she stresses me out. She said don't talk to me now neither are you capable of talking. I told her she has never ending issues, to which she said that with a family like yours, who would not have issues.

I then blocked her for a while, hoping that this would give her time to calm down (my fault for thinking that blocking her would make her calm). I then unblocked her and told her that I blocked her so she stopped saying brainless stuff. She then said to me that I am the most brainless person ever. I told her you need to see a psychiatrist to which she replied "You need to reborn, because only that can change your mindset".

I blocked her on WhatsApp and she kept spamming

" I hate you" On Instagram so I deactivated Instagram. We're not living together because I'm in a different city for some weeks and she's at her parents. The next morning she texted me on sim that marrying me was the worst mistake of her life. I did not reply. She then texted me again if she could call me. I told her she can call me only if she's not going to lash out on me. She told me she won't. She called, asked about my health, we talked a little about a few things, she was acting like she was normal and like didn't have just recently texted me that marrying me was the worst mistake of her life. Eventually we ended the call. I was still angry at her and I know she was still angry at me. I thought she called to say sorry but I know her enough that I didn't get my hopes up. Because she never ever initiates Amy makeups and it's always me who does it.

After a few hours she told me again that shes angry at me and I told her that I am angry at her too. It then started a long debate about my family not making her feel welcomed (she hasn't called my mother in so long, my mother has been sick and I've even told her shes sick). I then told her to get out of her own head and stop stressing me out too. She replied "You are an animal, a selfish avoidant animal". I blocked her.

She then texted me on sim saying she's gonna talk to her father about khula. Which I know is just a bluff, she wants me to react.

I'm in a tough spot right now. I try to be understanding and supportive but she keeps bringing up the same things and keeps stressing me out. As I said earlier, she is overly reactive. And sometimes it even feels like she feeds off of these emotions, like they somehow make her feel strong, because she feels like a totally different person during these episodes. She does everything to get my attention, messages me on sim, Instagram, if we're face to face she would just bully me into talking and fighting back. I don't know whether to carry on this marriage or end it for good.