Boyfriend is not attracted to me
Me and my boyfriend are dating for over 3 years and sex has decreased a lot in the past few months, we tried talking about it but nothing has really changed and now we rarely have sex, and when we do I’m always the one initiating things.
Yesterday I caught him talking to other girls and I he apologized and said he did that because he doesn’t feel attractive to me anymore. That he loves me and even considered buying me a ring, but he has no sexual interested in me. I asked if he finds me attractive and he said he does but he doesn’t know why he can’t be turned on by me anymore, that sex with me doesn’t feel good and that he never had this problem with any other girlfriend in the past.
That crushed me in a way I can’t even explain. I was used to being a hot a girl, and had guys always hitting on me, I even had a waitress job where I got hired based on my looks and had to dress sexy to work there. I had guys obsessed over me in the past, and now the man I love and share a life has no interest in me.
He insist that loves me deeply and didn’t think about breaking up, but he doesn’t know what to do about this situation. He said he for some reason sex just doesn’t feel good with me, even asked if I use to use a lot of toys in the past that made me “loose”.
But guys in the past always told me sex felt good and would literally orgasm in minutes.
Just for context we have been living together for almost 1 year and a half, and he takes care of me financially. What should we do about this? Is there anything I can do to change that?