For context:
About 5 years ago, on Christmas Day, my mom got my father and me certificates for the Xtreme Xperience (which is a once-in-a-lifetime experience to drive supercars at high speeds on a race track). It was a super exciting and thoughtful gift. After learning a little more about what it entailed, we went on our day celebrating at our local movie theater.
A couple of years go by, and over that time, my mom would bring it up with me, saying I should talk with dad about setting up a time for us to fly or drive to wherever the track is and pick which car we want to drive. Each time I tried to talk with my dad about setting something up, it would be a surface-level conversation. Then, like any other day, it would be forgotten, and the cycle would start again the next time my mom brought it up.
A couple more years go by, as well as more instances of trying to plan something. Again, I would try to bring it up after my mom reminds me, but when nothing happens, then I dont think about it again.
Present day (As of 4/29/26):
I 21 male, recently got a new job, and I'm finally getting close to graduating with an Associate's in Science in May, and my mom decided to spring this on my dad and me after this past weekend when they were in Minnesota for my sister. My mom booked some hotel night's In nashville, and tonight my mom came in to help me pick out my car. At first, we went through all of the selections and finally got to the payment screen, but once we tried to put the voucher in, it gave us an error. At this point, I was relieved that I didn't have to worry about this anymore and my mom would be upset that we didn't make it in time. But we found out that it was just the type of car that I picked wasn't eligible with the coupon, so we picked the corresponding car and the coupon went through. She was asking me a couple of questions, I don't remember what, but I responded with "It doesn't matter to me," not in an annoyed way but in a way that I thought made it seem like I was still slightly interested without sounding like I wasn't at all. Then my mom got frustrated and upset on top of all of the other things that she is stressed about.
Extra:
I fully understand my mom's frustration with how I responded and was acting during the process I explained above. But personally, I think it's hard to get excited about doing something that you have been asking to do for years, and nothing has happened. I can confirm that 5 years ago, this was such a cool gift, and it was such an exciting thing. But now, after the seemingly endless number of times that we brought it up, on top of the many changes in our family, like my sister getting a car and a job, me getting a new job, my mom trying to find a new job, and my dad being my dad. It's hard because I don't have that big of an interest in doing that event anymore, and I would rather just tag along and make family memories.