u/Double-Canary-112

I 21F have been in a situationship that turned into a talking stage for about 7 months with 21M. Basically, we started out as friends with benefits, that eventually turned into a situationship and now it's become a talking stage for the past monthish. TBH, it's basically become dating without the label. We both really like each other and want to continue talking and eventually start dating, but the issue is we are both graduating college seniors. We only live about an hour twenty apart so it isn’t too bad, but we are both unsure where we are going to end up in life the next few months, whether that is with going to grad school or getting a job in another state. I want to start dating. I think that things have been going great and I can see a future with him, even though our futures are so unsure now. All I know is that I want to have him in my life and I’m willing to make it work. Even though we have mostly been in a situationship, I have always been ready to take things to the next level with him, so most of our “relationship” has been me waiting for him to be ready. Now from his perspective, he does not see us dating until we have stability in our lives, such as figuring out the post grad plans, which could take over a year. I understand stability is important, but I also don’t know how logical it is to be in a committed talking stage for the unforeseeable future. It kind of seems like he’s afraid of commitment. In my opinion, I would love to be with someone despite the uncertainty that's coming. I don’t think it would hurt to be dating since it just means commitment, although we have been “exclusive” this whole school year. At the end of the day, if it doesn’t work out then things can end and that just goes to show that it wasn’t meant to be, but I wish he would give it a chance. No matter what I say, I know I won’t be able to change his mind. For the record we talk about a future together and he does show genuine interest in being with me for a long time. I’m just confused why commitment can’t start now.