Husband had an affair with coworker
Hello everyone, I’m new here and just wanted to share my story and ask for advice.
I recently found out my(31f) husband(32m) was having an affair with a female coworker (40) and I’m so heartbroken
Me and my husband were together for 9 years before we got married last September. We have two children together and recently bought our first home together.
We’ve only been married 7 months when his APs husband came and told me what was happening. Her husband had a suspicion and installed a gps. My husband had been having an affair with a woman from work whom we had problems with before. They had been having an affair for 4 months. So out of a 7 month marriage, he was cheating for 4 of those months! He claims it was all emotional, someone to talk to because we had been busy in our lives with work and children.
He brought her to our home while our children were here, she came to the back lane and according to him, they just talked. The following morning they got caught in the back of his vehicle together by her husband. My husband claims that they were talking about how they had taken it to far and should end it when her husband showed up (what a coincidence).
There’s so much inconsistencies in his story,
Why would their first meeting place be at our home with my kids there?
Why would they be sitting in the back seat if they were talking about ending it?
Why did she have me blocked on everything before any of this came to the surface?
If they only met up twice, why would her husband be suspicious enough to install a gps tracker?
After a few days of arguing, I went to the crisis centre because of how hurt and confused I was and I just wanted it to go away. I was so emotionally drained that I felt I couldn’t properly take care of myself or my children.
I loved him and our marriage. I just wanted to be his wife and continue building a life together. I’m stuck in this constant back and forth of wanting to stay but knowing I deserve better. I feel stupid for not noticing the signs: less communication, asking if I’ll be home early from work, less intimacy, more private with his phone, never wanting to miss work.
I feel so stupid. Does it get better, does this pain ever go away?
For those that stayed, was it worth it?