How to work through this?
My husband and I have known each other for 8 years and married for 2.5.
He has always been over reactive or delivers wrong when dealing with stress.
Example - he has broken about 2 coffee tables due to hitting his hand down on them when mad.
Has smashed a tv.
He one time punched the shit out of our bedroom door because he got a zit and had a big work case the coming week.
One time the fast food restaurant forgot his fries and he smashed his phone on the table and it broke. He went back and demanded the fries.
That’s to name a few. When I bring it up he mentions how I bring up the past too much and that I’ve done things as well… I don’t think anything like breaking furniture….
He has a high stress job, I work two jobs. He makes a lot more money than me, but I pay half the mortgage, my vehicle, insurance and 7/10 of the groceries due to him eating most of it.
He use to flip out if I had a cold sore. Or would be embarrassed to take me out if I had one. He would get upset if he wanted head, and he could t get it. I would always panic about getting the cold sore and hated his reaction about them. He seems to have faded off that, but I don’t get them as much as I use too.
Anyway, he seems to think while becoming religious he has changed. But I still see those anger moments. I love him but I don’t see this ever completely changing. I clean; I make dinner etc. to try and keep him at peace. He reminds me he cleans too, and his life isn’t all fun either. But I feel I have a sense of resentment with him. Any tips besides counselling for us to work through this ?