I’m F 29 and he’s M 25. I created a post about 3 weeks ago about how I met this guy and we were just having casual s*x but the last 3 interactions he demonstrated frustration about how he wanted more than just casual. We met after that and we had a heart to heart talk and he said he misunderstood me and he was happy and that I was then “stuck with him”. It was a very wholesome conversation and I was happy. We were going to spend the Sunday together but his work called and he had to go work, he was upset about it and reassured me he would make up to me and meet me in his next free day. He is really busy with work (coast guard) and gets only a day off of the week.
He left and I haven’t heard any initiative from him since, that was two weeks ago. I met his friends and I follow them on ig and saw that last Wednesday they had a day off and he didn’t contact me then, which I didn’t feel bad about it because he’s allowed to use his free time however he wants, I don’t know how long he was free or what was the circumstances and I’m not the controlling type. His last 3 free days he spent entirely with me so I didn’t feel anything wrong about it, tho I would have liked if he at least expressed he wanted to spend the day with his coworkers.
I sent him photos of my cat that he’s obsessed with here and there and the interactions are just hearting the message or “aw” or not at all.
I understand his busy but he watches ALL my Instagram stories so I know he is in his phone.
He finally messaged me this monday saying that he was going to try to meet me on Tuesday for cinco de mayo but he had a promotion test so he was not sure what time, I called him around 9pm to check if he was going to make it as I was leaving the event soon.
He didn’t pick it up but proceeded to watch my stories next day and the day after.
Now it’s Thursday and I’m sick of this interaction, I don’t know if I’m not being understanding of how busy he is but if we had kept things casual I wouldn’t be so bummed about all of this?
Plus, if you have time to watch my stories you can at least give me a heads up of your next free day or keep the connection going? I’m not asking for daily talk but it’s been two weeks!?
I finally messaged him last night with: Hey, I really like you and I think we have great chemistry, but I don’t think we’re matching each other’s effort or availability right now. I’m not someone that likes to juggle multiple people or keep things casual in that way, and I realized I’ve been holding myself back waiting for consistency that isn’t really there. No hard feelings at all, I know you are busy, but I need better communication and consistency than this for something to work for me.
But now I’m second guessing if I’m not being understanding enough?
I really like his personality and being together when we are in person but this inconsistency is throwing me off?