So I've been having a whole load of trouble trying to figure out if I'm in the wrong, so I decided this would be a neutral place to come to.
Skip ahead to the marked text if you don't care about the history (including abuse).
My dad (40+) abused me (15) and my little brother (13) for as long as I can remember. He would make us sit on our bare knees outside on the stones and would punish us every day. I'm also sure that he hit us quite a bit.
That was a long time ago though. The last time he did something like this was about 3 years ago, when he dragged me across the floor to put me on my knees.
Now, however, he's been acting all nice and friendly since he's been divorcing my mom. At one point he kept it up so well that I was starting to forget about the trauma a little, but then he got pushy.
You see, a year before he started divorcing my mom he started seeing another woman (I'll call her Eve, because I still respect her privacy). My dad apparently thinks this is okay because my mom left my dad for a period of time for another man, because my dad did something awful to us again.
I think they both suck for cheating, but I can see my mom's side a bit better.
My dad would however always be there when my mom would go crazy, because she sometimes gets insanely mad about stupid things. She is a nurse in a mental hospital, so she doesn't get enough sleep and has to deal with self-unalivings a lot, but that doesn't mean I enjoyed it.
She used to get mad when I didn't understand math, or didn't eat fast enough (she would force feed me while I cried). Yeah I was being an asshole, but I was 6? That's normal for a kid to do. Then you enforce good behavior, you don't punish them.
Now, to the real predicament. My dad still does shitty things, and recently he went on a 'justice kick' and said that I don't have enough respect for him. While I think he does less for me than my mom does, and I do more for him than I do for my mom.
My dad also says that he's really sorry, and he has cried three times up until now. He also said that he's really disappointed when I say I don't want to meet Eve because "He's trying to move on from mom, but he can't if I don't work with him."
I don't know if his feelings are real, at least my mom apologized AND I genuinely feel that it's real. I just can't feel that with my dad.
AITAH for hating my dad for this?
Extra info:
-Eve has two children which my dad loves.
-My dad went on a secret vacation with Eve and her children while Mom, I and little brother were on vacation.
-My dad has tried to not mention Eve going somewhere on a trip, and then revealed it when he had planned it (taking free on certain days).
-My dad refuses to go almost anywhere without Eve, but also complains that I never go anywhere with him.
-My little brother agrees that I'm not the asshole.
-My mother is an asshole in arguments (insane yelling and mimicking in a silly voice with silly posture).
-My mom also physically hurt me in a recent argument (pushing and grabbing about 1 year ago).