Am I too sensitive about lying?
One of the biggest reasons I struggle with the idea of reconnecting is that my parent is a pathological liar.
They have made up rumors and gossip about me to spread around to family and friends. They have then lied to my face directly about it.
They lie about mundane things (like their profession online) and big things that matter (like medical diagnoses in my childhood).
I know I could probably try to reconnect successfully, but I also know I would be told a whole pack of lies about all sorts of things. The attempts to gaslight and manipulate would fill me with contempt, because it's really abhorrent to me.
When I've brought this up to friends and in counciling, it seems like people don't find this that problematic? Like it feels like my concerns about this aspect of things is just met with a giant 'meh' by most people around me.