Reached out to my ex for my clothes after 4 months no contact… instantly regretted it.
Hey everyone, I just need to vent and hopefully get some perspective because today has been really heavy.
My ex and I broke up back in January, but we officially stopped talking at the end of February. One of the biggest reasons we broke up was his drug use. After almost 3months of strict no contact, I finally broke down today and reached out to him to ask if he still had some of my clothes.
His response? He told me he kept them for a little while, but eventually just threw them away. It hurt, but I tried to keep it mature and told him it was fine, just material things.
From there, the conversation was completely dry and boring. He casually asked how I was, and I kept it short because I didn't want to give him too much of my energy. Then, he drops this massive bomb: he tells me life is great and that he is "finally clean, coming up on 4 months."
The math completely doesn't add up. We were talking until the end of February and he was absolutely still using then. But instead of arguing, I just matched his energy and said, "That's good! Yea life's been good too, can't complain."
He took forever with responing with “Hell yea well good talk have your self a fantastic day dork." I just replied with a quick "yea you too stay clean" and left it at that.
I feel like I should have never reached out. If I’m being completely honest with myself, I wasn't just asking about clothes. I was hoping for an apology. I was hoping for some vulnerability, some accountability, or just a sign that he cared. Instead, a fake timeline, and a cold shoulder.
I’ve been trying to put myself out there and have been talking to other guys during our time apart, but I haven't found anyone ready for a serious commitment yet. I thought I was doing okay, but after today, it feels like my heart was broken all over again. I just really miss talking to him, i dont even care for a relationship its the friendship i miss
I know it is best for me to just leave this alone and move on for good. I’m ready to, but man, today just really sucks. Thanks for listening.