I recently got out of a bad relationship (see post history) after a long string of bad relationships (some quite traumatic and violent). The relationship ended on my terms, but he didn’t leave gracefully and caused a fair bit of drama. That’s all done now and over. No contact, no lingering feelings. I think "out of sight, out of mind" has done wonders for me and given me a lot of clarity on just how bad things had gotten. I lost such a huge part of myself and my friends have spent the last couple months really helping me reconnect with that. Life hasn’t been better in years.
I wasn’t actively looking to move onto something new, but I met someone (34M). He has changed my perspective on everything. He’s so kind, considerate, thoughtful and just generally seems to care about me even though we aren't anything official. I’ve made it clear that it's really soon for me to move into anything and he has shown so much respect for that and let me guide the pace. He's unlike anyone I’ve ever dated, and that sort of feels like a healthy thing? The issue now is that I'm really falling for this guy, he amazes me every time we talk. But, it’s so soon. Friends tell me conflicting things. "Take it slow, day by day. You don't have to rush into anything" or "If it feels right and you want to be with him, then go for it".
I don't know what I should do. I know I like him, I know I want this to be something, but I don’t know if I'd be making a mistake by rushing.
Any advice would be so appreciated!