What would you do?
I absolutely love my NF. I've been with them for about a year and a half and they treat me amazing. With that being said, this year will be my final year. Reasons being a few things
-Normal commute was 30min. It's is now an hr both ways due to freeway road work and lane/exit closures.
-The constant leaving the house every single day. Normally this is fine but because we're downtown, there is traffic everywhere! Yes, I get paid milage but not to sit in traffic burning gas. (Here gas is now 4.99 a gallon). So to be asked every single.morning "so where are you going today" is starting to drive me insane because I know for a fact NPs don't leave the house Every. Single.Day with NK. It's not realistic so to put that on me is starting to effect me mentally because we have to sit in traffic every.single.day.
-Mom just had a baby girl 6 days ago and both parents are on leave until Oct. 20th. So yes, even if we do outings, we are coming back home with both parents there plus baby. This requires NK to want to play, do puzzles and hangout with NP. Puts me in an awkward position and it's just annoying. For example, we get back at 11. Lunch time isn't until 12:30 sometimes 1, NPs are in the main living area so obviously NK is going to want them over me. Some days I've made lunchtime a lot earlier on purpose, but it's really not realistic to adjust her time in our schedule based on what they're doing. When I first started I did make it clear that parents need to be out of sight when we are home (Mom is WFH FT and dad is WFH 2 days a week) they agreed to this. My expectations haven't changed just because they had another baby.
-House is constantly messy when I get there with toys, books, random stuff in the living room/hall way. I'm a nanny. Not a maid. If I can clean up our mess before leaving, I expect their mess from that night to be cleaned up before I get there. Same thing with the dishes I will clean up the kitchen. Make it spotless and a few minutes later , they'll take stuff out and leave random stuff on the counter like a used knife, bowl, or use spoon when the kitchen sink is steps away. No common sense as to "she just cleaned the kitchen. Let's respect this." Mind you, I'm not required to do anything that doesn't pertain to NK but I refuse to be surrounded by clutter and mess.
-Nk only naps when I'm there. Otherwise " He won't nap" and all my hard work all week to get him to nap goes out the window on the weekends and I have to start all over again because NPs just didn't want to deal with him.
I have decided this year will be my last year, so my question is-When should I let them know? I feel extremely burnt out but everything has now changed and I feel like they may need someone who can accommodate these changes better thrn I can. Please no judgment or mean words. I'm just looking for support on this and if anyone has dealt with this, how did you get through it? Im praying prices of gas going fown and traffic is better so I hope this will take a load of my mental health off a bit at least.
Edit; the messy house and leaving things around was pretty baby. The constant outings was also pre baby.