AITA for not trusting my MIL with my own baby?
Yesterday I (23f) had lunch with my boyfriend (27m) and his parents. I’m currently 9 months pregnant and our first baby can come any day now. Maybe that’s why I’m so emotional about this topic but I don’t know.
Disclaimer: I honestly think my in laws are nice people but when it comes to upbringing and respecting boundaries I simply don’t trust them.
My boyfriend and I have talked a lot about our childhood and there were some things that his parents did or decided that we both feel like we wouldn’t do with our children. Don’t get me wrong they are sweet but the just think that children can do whatever they want without consequences and telling them “You shouldn’t do that” is enough. My boyfriend never had clear boundaries in his childhood and we both simply agree that that’s not the way to go with our children.
Also my MIL kissed my boyfriend as a baby while she had active cold sores and he deals with that ever since and she doesn’t understand that a baby is not to be kissed when you have that on your lips.
That’s why I don’t feel very good with the thought of leaving my baby alone with them. But it wasn’t such a severe uncomfortable feeling until yesterday at said lunch.
My MIL told me that once our baby arrives she will come by everyday and then she wants to carry her all the time and only on her bare chest and that’s just too much for me. I feel so uncomfortable with this thought and also think that it’s definitely a boundary crossed like why would you want that as a grandma? I want my baby to have a great relationship with their grandparents but that is like bonding which ist (especially in the first few months) only with the parents imo…
I don’t know if that’s normal and if I’m overreacting?