I want kids, but not with the person I’m with.
I’m with someone who have been off and on with for a few years. She’s younger and doesn’t want kids. Especially not with my because of my families medical history. (I had cancer, aunt too, arthritis and Lupus etc in my mom’s side) I don’t with her because her mental health diagnosis as well. I love her and a lot of the foundation of her as a person is what I want. She’s loyal, she’s funny smart, she challenges me and has a voice, she always has my back and is just the most caring and loving person. We just don’t always seem to connect. After all the back n forth, she always fight for me and I fight for her. She just fights harder it feels like sometimes. The more we spend time together the more i notice how much we are alike. My favorite thing about her is how she’s always growing and always wanting to be better. My issue is that it feels like such hard work sometimes. It feels like we have 2 major issues and that’s me wanting kids and her not, and her not wanting to give up her beautiful apartment (and low rent) to move in with me, (I live with my parents and brother but going to have a separate apartment in the house soon) I moved back in when I was diagnosed with cancer for all you judge mental folks.
So ultimately my question is, are soulmates a thing, should it be a lot easier, or do we just keep choosing each other and it’ll all workout ?