So, I have this habit of getting into these absolutely stupid, circular arguments with my girlfriend. It’s usually over text, sometimes in person, but I can always see it coming. Like, I see her lining up to blow up on me, and instead of de-escalating, I usually say exactly the wrong thing and make it ten times worse.
A few months ago, I started doing something kind of desperate. I started using AI to help me reply. I’d literally copy and paste the convo, give it the context of why we were annoyed, and tell it to write a response that didn’t make me sound like an idiot.
The first few times I sent the replies it gave me, I felt so cringy. I was sitting there thinking, "There is no way she believes this waffle..." But honestly? It worked. It neutralised the situation immediately. No fights, she felt heard, and we were back to normal within minutes instead of days of tension.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago—I’m over at my buddy Clark’s place for dinner. His girlfriend is heavily pregnant, and I ended up admitting to them that I’ve been using AI as a relationship buffer. They thought it was hilarious and were basically roasting me for it.
I went back to see them a week later, after the baby was born. Clark’s girlfriend looks at me and goes, "Honestly, we’ve been talking about your AI thing a lot. I actually think most men should investigate doing the same." She wasn't even joking—she was dead serious that it would save so many women a massive headache.
That Friday, I was bored and messing around with "vibe coding" (if you haven't tried Cursor or Replit yet, it's wild). I’ve built some random tools for friends before, but I couldn't decide what to work on next. Then I thought about what Clark’s GF said.
I decided to build a proper interface for it and called it "The Peacekeeper" lol.
I sent the link to a bunch of friends just to see if they’d actually use it. I was shocked by the feedback. It’s actually helping guys in ways I didn't expect. One guy told me it’s basically teaching him how women actually want to be spoken to during a conflict. Another guy said it opened his eyes to the fact that he was being a bit of a wet blanket and needed to stand his ground more (just in a respectful way).
It’s kind of a weird feeling knowing a LLM is saving my relationship, but hey, if it keeps the peace, is it actually a bad thing? Curious if anyone else has tried this or if I’m just a total fraud lol.
If you think it might help you, check it out: https://peacekeeperai.co.uk/