What do I do?
I’m looking for some advice on our relationship. My partner and I are both in our early 50’s and have a child together.
I own the house and pay nearly 100% of the bills associated with the house. My partner works part time and occasionally buys some shopping and does contribute towards running a shared car.
She spends a lot of her time playing games on her iPad, watching tv shows and online shopping and does do some housework such as washing dishes and laundry.
Pretty much everyday she has packages arrive for herself or something she buys for my daughter and on the other side there is a regular amount of clothing and goods being chucked away.
I’ve made a real effort to put money away for retirement but she cannot seem to do the same and is constantly buying things for herself or our child. New shoes are one of the things she will buy every month or so. Which When I mentioned it I was told to shut up.
Her dad recently passed away and left a small amount of money which she has spent on herself already on a new iPad that she didn’t need.
Our sex life has become non existent and has been for two years which I find really hard to deal with as my sex drive is high. She comes to bed usually in the early hours fully clothed even in hot weather. The last time I suggested sex It was no and when I persisted she said not to keep asking as she felt I was forcing her into it.
So I’ve not asked since.
I’m quite shy and find it hard to explain my thoughts and feelings.
I’m at the stage now where I feel like I’m living with my annoying sister. I love her but I’m not in love with her. She doesn’t add anything to my life and I’m thinking maybe it’s time to part ways.