u/Dr8tto

I (recent graduate, currently doing a remote internship) live in a shared PG room in Chennai.

I’m very particular about sleep. After around 10:30 pm (lights out), I need it to be quiet or I wake up easily. When a new roommate moved in, I told him this upfront. He said he’d keep things low at night.

In reality, he would often come in late and talk on the phone, sometimes until 12–12:30 am, which repeatedly woke me up. I brought it up multiple times and asked if he could take late calls outside in the veranda (there’s seating and a fan there), but he continued taking calls inside.

During these discussions, he would sometimes bring up his salary, age, and “status,” and say it was his right to use the room however he wanted.

After a few instances, I got frustrated and we had an argument. I did use words like “bloody” and “nonsense,” but nothing more extreme. He later complained to the landlord that I used foul language and insulted him, and then shifted rooms.

Separately, I had also raised a small issue with the caretaker about delayed water delivery and a ₹100 deposit not being returned, which I brought up to the landlord.

Now the landlord says I have “attitude,” don’t adjust well, and has given me 1 month’s notice to vacate.

From my perspective, I was just asking for basic quiet at night so I could sleep, but I understand that shared living requires adjustment.

AITA?

Edit: I just want to clarify that I only ask for silence at night when I am going to sleep (22:30), at other times of day I don't mind nor care.

Hi, I’m staying in a PG in T Nagar, Chennai, and I’m trying to handle a situation without making it worse.

Myquals are btech. Ece, currently just finished masters in the gaming field and doing internship.

I actually want to continue staying here. I’m doing a remote internship, so I spend most of my time in the room, and I’ve gotten used to the area and setup here.

I’m someone who’s pretty strict about sleep — after around 10:30 pm (lights out), I need it to be quiet.

A new roommate moved in, and I told him this upfront. He said he’d keep things low, but in reality he’d come in late and talk on the phone, sometimes even past midnight (12–12:30 am), which kept waking me up.

When I raised this, instead of adjusting, he would sometimes bring up things like his salary, age, and “status,” and say it’s his right to use the room however he wants. I suggested that if he needed to take late calls, he could use the veranda (there’s seating and a fan there), but he preferred staying inside.

After multiple instances, this built up and a couple of nights ago it turned into an argument. I did get frustrated and used words like “bloody” and “nonsense,” which he seems to have taken seriously. He then told the owner that I used foul language and insulted him, and shifted rooms.

Separately, I had also raised a small issue with the caretaker about delayed water delivery and a ₹100 deposit not being returned, which I brought up to the owner.

Now the owner seems to have a negative impression of me and has given me a 1-month notice, saying I have “attitude” and don’t adjust well.

From my side, I feel like I was asking for basic things (quiet at night, getting my deposit back), but I can also see how I might come across as rigid in a shared setup.

Since I genuinely want to stay here and keep things smooth going forward, I’d really appreciate advice on:

• How to approach the owner now and repair this situation
• What to say (or avoid saying) so it doesn’t make things worse
• Whether it’s realistically possible to change a landlord’s impression once it turns negative
• How people who need quiet at night manage in PG/shared living setups

Would really appreciate practical advice, especially from people who’ve dealt with similar PG situations.