I went NC with my mom and dad over a year ago. Best descion ever. Up until a few weeks ago, I have been in VLC with my two brothers.
I sent a letter saying it had been a year since all this went down and I haven't got support or check-ins ever from them. The letter I sent said, until they can also acknowledge what happens and be supportive, I also need more space and NC with them. The amount of relief I felt to be rid of the last two, of the family system, was beyond words in the best way.
Well...Last night I got a scathing email from my older, half brother, saying I ruined the entire family, am selfish, and completely crazy.
While it hurt, I wasn't surprised. I recently found out he was sharing information and pictures of my kids and information to my parents. I told them a year ago not to do that.
They talked all supportive and understanding over the last year. The second I set a new boundary he flipped.
TLDR: Even family who claim to understand and be supportive, doesn't mean they are actually being honest or genuine. If they are still in the family system, they likely don't fully understand or support you. Do with that what you will.