u/DrMorrow11

I live in California and our best friends are getting married in Atlanta at the end of October this year.

My wife and I really want to be able to go (we’re both in the bridal party and our 2yo daughter is supposed to be the flower girl/ring bearer) but I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with twins. So far everything looks good and I’m due to deliver at 36/37 weeks approximately 6/7 weeks before travel.

Obviously there are a lot of things that could prevent us from being able to go (illness, medically fragile babies, rough c-section recovery, etc.), but it could also be fine (hard, but fine).

Flights that are fully refundable are pretty much cost prohibitive. It’s about $1300 for round trips for 3 seated passengers for basic fares (nonrefundable). We’ll need to get a 5 night Airbnb with room for all the babies and my parents who are meeting us there (~$1300), and a minivan rental for ~$600. Some of that may be partially refundable (except flights).

Would travelers insurance with trip cancellation work in this case if I bought it at the same time I book everything? I know most policies waive preexisting conditions if you buy within 14 days, but I can’t add my twins to the policy until they are born, which would likely be after 14 days. Is being born early a preexisting condition for trip cancellation purposes?

To clarify, my family is fully covered for medical. I’m only concerned about trip cancellation and if the can say “oh well, newborn twins being sick doesn’t count because you knew they were coming and would be premature when you purchased the policy”

Is a Cancel for Any Reason add-on worth it here?

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My daughter is 2 years old (plus 4 months) and has been showing interest in the potty, telling us when she was peeing/pooping, for months. My wife and I (both women) have been modeling potty enthusiasm for months. I am currently 4.5 months pregnant with twins, so I’m feeing the pressure to get her out of diapers.

My wife and I work full time and she is at preschool from 8:30-4 every day.

We’ve done some periodic naked time and potting for fun over the last few months. We were going to try to potty train over spring break last month when we had in-home backup care, but our daughter ended up getting sick with a respiratory virus and being hospitalized for 2 nights, so we obviously scrapped that.

We had a 3-day weekend (rare for us) this weekend and spent the entire time from Friday afternoon to Monday night, with our daughter pantsless. She did great. We took her to “check in with her body” (what they say at preschool) at regular intervals and several times a day, she told us she had to pee (and did on the potty) or caught a dribble, stopped, and finished in the potty. We do incentivize with a mini-fruit snack piece for trying, mainly because we want it to be positive for her and because she sits still on the potty while she eats it long enough for the pee to come. She had two small pee accidents (one at home while naked and one at the playground) and one poop accident (which she caught halfway through).

So when she returned to school today, she was super excited to use the potty (she’d already been using it there 4-5 times a week prior to this—she’s the youngest in her class so most of the other kids use the potty). We put her in underwear and informed her teachers how it was going. She did a pee in the potty first thing, but she has now had 4 accidents (pee, BM, pee, pee, basically on the hour) between arrival and 1pm (naptime). She obviously can’t be naked at school, and her teachers can’t be expected take her to the potty every 20-30 mins. I knew we’d have accidents—I packed like 4 extra pairs of clothes—but I wasn’t expecting this.

Is this a sign that she just isn’t ready? Or is this completely normal and just give it more time? I don’t want this to be negative for her. Should we do potty at home and diapers at school for now and try again later? She’s just been doing so well at home. I don’t want to throw in the towel yet. We can’t afford to take off work to do longer at home training. We just have the evenings and weekends to reinforce.

TLDR: 2yo girl. Potty training going well at home, terrible at school. What do I do?